So i have a major dilema!!!!! So i met my FH through a mutual friend Jen and she became my best friend. She and I worked together for 3 years and we hung out like every single day. When engagement started to come up in topics she would tell me 'i dont wanna be ur maid of honor' its too much work i dont have any money i wouldn't be a good maid of honor just make me a bridesmaid. So finally the FH asked me to marry him i called her up she was so excited she asked who was the maid of honor and i told her i dont know and she was like alright as long as it not me. So a week went by and i asked another b/f Keri to be my MOH and when Jenn asked me who i finally picked she was like well maybe we can do it toggether. Then i find out 3 days ago she was practially crying that she wasn't the MOH to my brother, when i already have asked my friend. Sorry if this is confusing im tryin to make it not!
What do i do
do i tell my friend Jenn no... or do i tell Keri i really want Jenn to do it or do i tell Keri that i would like both to do it, but how do i do it w/out her being so upset, because she was so excited to do it and i dont wanna crush her. i honestly want Jen to do it and not Keri, not to sound like a **** but Keri was my backup! UGH i fell like im in a rut.
please help...what would you do???
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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Jenn shouldnt have said what she said in the first place so I think that its her own damn fault! You already told Keri she was your MOH so you cant back out on that now... It seems like Jenn didnt want to take on the heavy burden and do it alone. Now that she sees it could be 2 MOH's working together, shes not that afraid anymore.... Ultimately, it is your decision, but its not right to take the title away from your 'backup'
This is a tuff one. I had to have 2 MOH, because my mom made me included one of my other friends also. Just have 2 it's no big deal.
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wow - that stinks. I think that you should talk to her (Jen) and explain that you wanted her to be your MOH but she always told you that she didn't want that. I would also talk to the other girl and explain that you would also like Jen to be your moh as well. I don't know...that's hard!!!
Jayla127
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You should have a talk with Jenn and explain to her the reason for you picking another MOH. She previously stated that because of financial reasos she wouldn't be able to support like she wants. If you decide you still want her as an added MOH I would explain that she can't keep changing her mind. Keri shouldn't get upset because you are the one in charge of choosing your wedding party. Just tell her there was no one to just pick one so you want them both to share the day with you.
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You shoul definitely talk to jen and explain to her that you wanted her to be your MOH first but she kept saying she didnt want to do it which is why you asked kerri ..... i'm having both my sisters be my MOH's so if you want both have both but i dont think you should tell keri you would rather have jen b/c that will most likely result in a fight and you're going to hurt kerri's feelings. I would either keep keri or have both
Summertimegal424
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i dunno i still feel so dumb for choosin the other friend and have just choose my best friend!
mdawg
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i think you can do both without a problem.... although she shouldve told you from the start that she wouldve been hurt and she actually wanted to be the MOH... its a hard situation, but i think it can be resolved easily.
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first off I think Jenn should not have been so crazy about NOT wanting to do it...now that you already asked someone else I would explain to Keri the situation and ask her if they both could be it...
Oh man...drama!!!!
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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My drama is like totally the opposite! I have like no one that i'm really close with to be moh and bm's LOL actually sad situation! The girls i normally hang out with are fh's friends gf's and its not too dependable to have them in the party when god only know if the rel's with their bf's will last that long!!! The girl i would like to have made moh - we actually been drifting apart over the yrs (we're hs friends) and she jus expects to be my bm not moh so i think i would feel stupid asking her now....
Summertimegal424
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thanks girls so i guess im gonna talk tomy one friend and tell her shes getting 1/2 the duty...hopefully she dont mind, and i guess if she does than i guess shes not worthy enough for the 1/2 right???
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listen you cannot worry about hurting peoples feelings... i know easier said then done... but you have to do what you want... and to be honest i dont understand were jenn comes off being upset after she made it clear she didnt want to be your moh... but thats people for you...
If you wanted to have 2..... i think it would be fine.. im having 2....
just do whats going to make YOU happy... good luck!
DonnaPWhite1124
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Cowens...its your wedding!
You can have 2 maid of honors! I believe they call them 'co MOHs'
