Male vs Female officiant

Lori-Chris2008 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:27 AM

Male vs Female officiant

Does it really matter? I guess I am just used to men being the officiant or preist, etc.

ourday08 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:30 AM

Re: Male vs Female officiant

I don't think it really matters. It's just a personal choice!

Lori-Chris2008 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:34 AM

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Posted by ourday08

I don't think it really matters. It's just a personal choice!

Yeah im just confused I dont know what I want. I am used to a male officiant, but I dont know why.. I feel bias hehehhe.

TGs Lady 22908 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:34 AM

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

Does it really matter? I guess I am just used to men being the officiant or preist, etc.

At first, my FH had a huge problem with being married by a woman (don't take offense it was just one of those silly hang-ups, he's not like sexist or anything).....but after realizing that we wouldn't really get the ceremony we wanted (very non-religious but not as sterile as a civil ceremony) unless we did get a woman officiant, he very quickly changed his mind. Durring my search for an officiant I found that most men are more religious based while the women tend to be more spiritual and more open to different traditions. I mean, there may be a great man out there who does what we're looking for but I just couldn't find one.

....so no, I don't think it matters at all.

Lori-Chris2008 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:38 AM

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Posted by TGs Lady 22908

Posted by Lori-Chris2008

Does it really matter? I guess I am just used to men being the officiant or preist, etc.

At first, my FH had a huge problem with being married by a woman (don't take offense it was just one of those silly hang-ups, he's not like sexist or anything).....but after realizing that we wouldn't really get the ceremony we wanted (very non-religious but not as sterile as a civil ceremony) unless we did get a woman officiant, he very quickly changed his mind. Durring my search for an officiant I found that most men are more religious based while the women tend to be more spiritual and more open to different traditions. I mean, there may be a great man out there who does what we're looking for but I just couldn't find one.

....so no, I don't think it matters at all.

yeah we have the same issue. Dont want religious either.

Kurtsk8 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:39 AM

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Posted by Lori-Chris2008

Posted by ourday08

I don't think it really matters. It's just a personal choice!

Yeah im just confused I dont know what I want. I am used to a male officiant, but I dont know why.. I feel bias hehehhe.

I am so glad somebody posted this! FH and I were talking about it and both wanted the ceremony to be as 'traditional' as possible without it being religious and didn't think a woman 'fit the role.' After doing some research a woman seems to be a good choice, but we just don't know if we want it that way. I know we are probably just being ridiculous..I guess it's just a mental block!

Lori-Chris2008 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:47 AM

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Posted by Kurtsk8

Posted by Lori-Chris2008

Posted by ourday08

I don't think it really matters. It's just a personal choice!

Yeah im just confused I dont know what I want. I am used to a male officiant, but I dont know why.. I feel bias hehehhe.

I am so glad somebody posted this! FH and I were talking about it and both wanted the ceremony to be as 'traditional' as possible without it being religious and didn't think a woman 'fit the role.' After doing some research a woman seems to be a good choice, but we just don't know if we want it that way. I know we are probably just being ridiculous..I guess it's just a mental block!

I know!! its crazy right. My FH said the only reason im having a hard time with it is because I watch to much TV hehehehe. I am just sooo used to a male figure performing the ceremony. But hey a female could do just the say and possibly better. I just dont know what to do

futuremrsmultari Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:48 AM

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Go with your gut. When you meet the right officiant, you'll know! Good luck!

TGs Lady 22908 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:49 AM

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Posted by Kurtsk8

Posted by Lori-Chris2008

Posted by ourday08

I don't think it really matters. It's just a personal choice!

Yeah im just confused I dont know what I want. I am used to a male officiant, but I dont know why.. I feel bias hehehhe.

I am so glad somebody posted this! FH and I were talking about it and both wanted the ceremony to be as 'traditional' as possible without it being religious and didn't think a woman 'fit the role.' After doing some research a woman seems to be a good choice, but we just don't know if we want it that way. I know we are probably just being ridiculous..I guess it's just a mental block!

If you read some of the reviews and testamonials on April from the Church of Ancient Ways (LIW Vendor) or Rev. Deb Viola (also an, LIW vendor) I can guarantee you will definetly be 'un-blocked'. haha. They apparently do very emotional, very personal ceremonies. I cry sometimes just reading the things people have to say about their ceremonies.