Married but... (ADDED LINK TO ARTICLE)

not living together...

I just read an article about this couple who are married, have twin boys (6 years old) and they live separetly. They said that they dont have much incommon but they love each other and they anny each other when together too much. He comes over for dinner and tucks the boys in and then goes home.

I thought this was so strange, but they have been married 16 years. He lives downtown she lives uptown (or visa versa - i forget) I'd be paranoid he would be cheating or who knows what.

What are your thoughts on this? would anyone consider doing this?

I could definetly NOT do this. I love being with FH and I love having someone next to me when i go to bed and wake up in the AM. I love having him around and can't wait to be living together.


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Which brings me to a far more compelling reason for our living separately: John and I have nothing in common except that we love each other and our sons. (We also share an antipathy for team sports and shellfish, a solid foundation for lifelong commitment if there ever was one.) But as far as our living habits go, we could not be farther apart. I think this situation is true for many married couples; they simply won’t admit it.

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I won’t go so far as to say that our arrangement has brought us closer. John and I fight as much as, and perhaps more than, the average couple. But living apart has allowed us to stay married and remain in love. We do find each other essential; it’s just that, like many couples, we find each other deeply annoying, too. The only difference with us is that sometimes we can breathe a deep sigh of relief at the end of the day and say: I love you, honey; now get the hell out of here!

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haha could totally picture my best friend doing this hahaa


i could never imagine. i mean of course fh and i are like never together because of our situation but i could not imagine being married to him and seperated but still have kids and married wihtout sleeping next to him for 16 yrs

gina i too feel the same way as you.. but hey if it works it works... i have quite a few family members whos parents dont sleep in the same room anymore.. they have been married for more then 20 years. it just what works for them. my brother is married and he lives in NC and his wife lives here in NY (thats a whole other story and i DEF dont have enough time or space to explain) but it seems to work.

Hmm..I guess whatever works for you!!

But, I look foward to seeing FH every nite!! I couldn't imagine being married and living seperately. Isn't living together and building a life and memories the whole point of marriage? Very strange!!

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Posted by cbcf

haha could totally picture my best friend doing this hahaa


i could never imagine. i mean of course fh and i are like never together because of our situation but i could not imagine being married to him and seperated but still have kids and married wihtout sleeping next to him for 16 yrs

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I know and the way the article made it seem was that they really dont like being together too much and like doing their own things.. i just dont get why they married? but i guess it works for them

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Posted by jerrys girl

i saw that on tv i think. it is weird. i could never do that.

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i read it in SELF magazine tonight - im trying to see if i can find the article

I think it's definitely different!

Although, lately i have been joking (half joking) with my mom about still living at home! FH and I still live at home with our parents and I feel sad everytime I think about the day that I have to leave home, especially since my dad isn't around anymore.

So I guess I can kind of see where these people are coming from, but obvioulsy don't know the whole situation. Whatever works!

I read that! I thought it was so weird, but whatever works I guess

Strange...but I guess different strokes for different folks! Whatever works for ya!

That is just weird and the article sounds like they really don't like each other at all. Maybe if they focused more on what they do like about each other or some of things they do together it wouldn't be as weird (no it would still be weird).

Sometimes FH annoys me so I go in the other room not to a completely different house!!!!!!!!!!!!!!