SOOOOOO who is planning on taking their husbands last name?? I'm planning on hyphenating mine but FH is not happy about it I guess he feels insulted. I feel like it's insulting for me to lose MY last name. It's not like I plan on hyphenating our kids last name...am I being harsh??? What is everyone planning on doing??
csorisi
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Well my FI is very stubborn when it comes to this topic. I want to make my maiden name my middle name no hypen and take his last name. We will be Mr & Mrs. X but he thinks I am trying to go all liberal and it would be Mr. x and Mrs. XX--he is crazy--he thinks our children will get confused and all but I am really strong about this and he is really strong about his side--he thinks it is an insult not to take his last name b/c his mom took his dads last name and THAT IS JUST THE WAY IT IS!! If only he would see that changing my name all of a sudden after 26 years is a big deal its not like he has to change his name--god forbid it is going to take some getting use to but eventually I think I wouldn't use my maiden name as my middle name and just his last name but I can't just jump into it--i feel like i will lose my identity. Anyway sorry for the vent.
gNi1125
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I will be taking FH's name.
cjb88
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i would love to take FI's name... but i like mine better... and im a teacher and have to hear it all day long... what to do what to do...
plus.. when the kids call my name ill be thinkgin they are calling my MIL!!!
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I'm making my maiden name my middle name, since I dont have one this works out perfectly, and am going to take my FH's name as my last name. I like his last name better than mine anyway, I have a last name that always gets butchered, mispronounced, misspelled, and his is so much easier!
kris15198
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I'm taking his last name.
dsandbs
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One of the only arguments FH and I have had in regards to wedding has been about 1) Invite list and 2) The infamous LAST NAME...
I am hyphenating- but he is still not ok with it. After a huge 'discussion' including tears..FH said that if it was that important to me than I can do what I want, but that he doesn't agree with it... If anyone brings this topic up (4 months later) we can't talk about it b/c it is still a sore topic!
12-3Princess
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i'm taking his last name.
lilqtny
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Taking it, I can't wait to have my very own classroom and have them all call me Mrs. M!!!
Dom n Nic
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im taking his last name.
dpli
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I kept my name for a variety of reasons. I think DH was a little hurt at first but when I asked him if he would be willing to hyphenate or change his name, he said absolutely not!! So I countered with, 'then why would you think it would be so easy for me to do that?' If we have kids, I am fine with them taking his last name, I just wanted to keep my own. I think kids get used to whatever they learn, so I am not really that worried about it. Frankly, I find that other people have had much more of a problem with it than my husband....
