may i just VENT?!

i am soooo f-ing pissed! we didnt know what was going on for Xmas and then we hear TODAY that everyone from FH's family (theyre scattered all over teh US).. EVERYONE is meeting the day AFTER xmas at his sisters house in Virginia... Why did no one tell US??!?! i am soooo mad now b/c we cant go since fh has to work the day after.... how can they NOT tell us? he asked why we werent invited and they said that no one was 'invited'... then how did everyone else know but us?! should i say something to someone??? i dont want to cause problems but this is unreal to me! Christmas is NOT supposed to be like this.

That sucks! I think you should leave it up to FH to say something since it is his family. It is rude no one told you guys...I would be pissed too

i'm more hurt... but youre right.. i should leave it up to FH to say something.... the thing is though, he never will... he never likes to cause problems.... i dont want to either... but i want them to know that i am hurt and that they shouldnt not include us in things.. its not the first time somthing like htis has happaned...

then again my motto is 'if it doesnt matter in 5 years... then it doesnt matter'.. maybe i should take my own advise!

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Posted by Moehick

Thats good advice...maybe you can go to one of his family members you get along with and just say you are upset you didn't know and would have loved to hang out with everyone.

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I agree - casually question someone first before exploding - but I would really say something. This is the kind of thing that could still be going on in 5 years if you are going to be part of his fam, so I don't know if your philosophy (although a good one) applies here!

Good luck.

no.. i was actually thinking of that as well.... tonoght one of his sisters called to find out why he was upset.... (it was about something not completely related).. she's the one i know i can go to... shes a blabbermouth anyway so i know she would get my feelings across.. and i think she will understand. i'm sure eventually it will come up but for now im going to try NOT to... id rather bring it up once im over it... but so it wont happen again.

on Christmas day SOME of his family is going to some random aunts house... i met her once and said 2 words to her.. not to mention kevin hasnt seen her or her family in like 20 years... and i REALLLY dont want to go.... id rather just be with him then rather with strangers.. its christmas ya know?.... i told him to go and he said not without me.... so if we decide that we DEF arent going then i HOPE his mom or sister that is going asks why... i told him to blame it on me. To say that i was really hurt that we werent included in the plans.. we are family too but we really dont get acknowledge.. its very weird.... then maybe theyll come to me (or i can go to them) and let them know this cant go on.... its so silly, but thanks for listening!!!!!