Meeting with Officiant.. Help

CloudNine Posted: Dec 29, 2008 04:31 PM

Meeting with Officiant.. Help

so next week we are meeting with an officiant. any suggested questions?
the only i can think of is the obvious..cost
also if he is available to do the rehearsal

MeaganAndJoeC Posted: Dec 29, 2008 04:57 PM

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If you plan on writing your own vows or doing something out of tradition let them know. They have great suggestions and know best. GL

futureMrsJSL Posted: Dec 29, 2008 05:02 PM

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I was nervous too when I met mines but that's because my FH is Catholic and I am Baptist so I thought I'd have to convert or promise to raise the kids Catholic but it was not like that at all. Basically all we have to take are Pre Cana and I was so thankful for that. But back to you, if you are getting married at the hall and do not have to worry about all the other stuff ask him how he would run a ceremony and what you are aloud to incorporate such as personal vows or candle lighting, music. Also, will your girls actually stand next to you or sit. I was pleasantly surprised when I found out that I get to sit because I suck in heels but promised my FH i'd were them on that day. My girls will be sitting to rather than standing.

CloudNine Posted: Dec 29, 2008 05:39 PM

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thanks ladies...we are actually doing our own vows...well FH wants to but im so unsure about it

gina409 Posted: Dec 30, 2008 09:30 PM

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be prepared to answer some odd questions..our priest had us do like a 20 question test where we had to swear to god that we r not on drugs,pregnant being forced into marriage,gay and my fav that he is not my brother

CandB4604 Posted: Dec 30, 2008 09:40 PM

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Some things to discuss:
1) Where will parents stand
2) Where will bride and groom stand (on the officiants left or right, etc)
3) Where will Bridal Party be?
4) How many people in the bridal party
5) How much religion you want to involve?
6) Which wedding traditions do you want to include: ie. Stepping on the glass for a jewish wedding or a candle or sand or wine ceremony...
7) Can the officiant help you get the Marriage license
8) Do you want any part of the ceremony to be an 'in-memory' portion where you honor lost loved ones?
9) Should the officiant expect any of your friends or family members to sing during the ceremony or do a reading

HTH!

CloudNine Posted: Dec 30, 2008 09:46 PM

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thanks for that list!

we are meeting with rev donald doctor from abeautifulaffairoftheheart.com

they are a vendor here.

they sent us a huge outline of what kind of things can be used in the ceremony so my FH and i went through and tweaked it to customize it to what we want so that part should be easy

geegee827 Posted: Dec 30, 2008 10:25 PM

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Posted by gina409

be prepared to answer some odd questions..our priest had us do like a 20 question test where we had to swear to god that we r not on drugs,pregnant being forced into marriage,gay and my fav that he is not my brother

Didn't you just love that question???? For a minute I was almost going to say 'are you kidding me?' then I realized the priest was serious!

gina409 Posted: Dec 30, 2008 10:44 PM

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Posted by geegee827

Posted by gina409

be prepared to answer some odd questions..our priest had us do like a 20 question test where we had to swear to god that we r not on drugs,pregnant being forced into marriage,gay and my fav that he is not my brother

Didn't you just love that question???? For a minute I was almost going to say 'are you kidding me?' then I realized the priest was serious!

i know !!!!!i actually giggled a bit thank god he was ok with that