How are you gals remembering people who passed? My mom will only be gone 9 months when I get married, and I'd like there to be something special there for her, but I don't know what. Any ideas?
Posted by futuremrsmultari
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father in April 2007 so I understand completely. We included my father's name on our invites despite what etiquette says. I wrapped my bo-k in his hankie and had a bo-k charm of his photo that said 'Walk Me Down The Aisle Dad, 2/29/08'.
We had a moment of silence in his memory during the ceremony and with that, dedicated our ceremony/wedding vows to him. Our DJ (yay for Vinny from High Voltage!) suggested I dance to a song with my husband in his memory. I danced to 'My Wish' by Rascal Flatts and had my family cut in. It was terribly hard but it was beautiful. I'm so glad Vinny suggested it. We also made a donation to the American Diabetes Association in his memory. I added a lot of things to make sure he was there in spirit and remembered but I kept it at a level that it wasn't depressing.
All I can really say is this: do what you're comfortable with and what you want to do. You can't let anyone else dictate something so personal.
Posted by autumnbride10
Posted by futuremrsmultari
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father in April 2007 so I understand completely. We included my father's name on our invites despite what etiquette says. I wrapped my bo-k in his hankie and had a bo-k charm of his photo that said 'Walk Me Down The Aisle Dad, 2/29/08'.
We had a moment of silence in his memory during the ceremony and with that, dedicated our ceremony/wedding vows to him. Our DJ (yay for Vinny from High Voltage!) suggested I dance to a song with my husband in his memory. I danced to 'My Wish' by Rascal Flatts and had my family cut in. It was terribly hard but it was beautiful. I'm so glad Vinny suggested it. We also made a donation to the American Diabetes Association in his memory. I added a lot of things to make sure he was there in spirit and remembered but I kept it at a level that it wasn't depressing.
All I can really say is this: do what you're comfortable with and what you want to do. You can't let anyone else dictate something so personal.
That sounds like it was a beautiful way to remember your dad. The dance sounds beautiful. It's weird. I was going to have them both walk me down the aisle, and I wanted a dance with mom too. But I wonder who will step in for her on a dance like that?
I am doing a memory candle for several people. The lapel pin is for FH mother and he will wear that.
i am doing the bok charm also for my dad, and a memorr candle for the ceremony and reception
Posted by SusiBtoM
My mom was gone for 3 years when I got married.
We lit a memorial candle at the start of our ceremony. I had a beautiful ornament frame on my bo-k with her picture in it, and I wore her wedding band on my right hand, as I do everyday.
I also carried one of her hankies.
For the reception, I asked the memorial candle be placed on the sweetheart table and kept lit. My bo-k was right next to it.
I also had the florist create a special bo-k for me to place on her grave the day after the wedding. It contained the same flowers that were in my bo-k and my sis's.
I didn't make the memorial such a big deal, because my grief is private, and because this was a happy occassion.
Keep in mind that your Dad is also grieving, and if something will make him uncomfortable, then please don't do it.
If you dad is ok with it, you can lay a rose on what would have been her seat at the wedding.
Did your parent's have a special song that you can dance with your father and dedicate the song to your mom ? What about their wedding song ?
My mom and dad were divorced. I'm not sure what their wedding song was. I like the idea of that though, becuase without them, there would be no me... :)
I am very sorry for your loss.... My father passed about 16 years ago and my grandmother about 3 years ago and I was very close to both. I was planning on doing a bo-k charm with their pictures and also dancing with my uncle in memory of them to 'There you''ll be' by Faith Hill. I think the words to the song say it all. I never saw the memory candles before those are such a nice idea! Thank you all for putting so much stuff up! I hope this helps a little
Where do I get the bo-k charms?
Posted by autumnbride10
Where do I get the bo-k charms?
Posted by futuremrsmultari
Posted by autumnbride10
Where do I get the bo-k charms?
I was beyond thrilled with http://www.anniehowes.com/ I got the 1x1 and it was perfect!
We are going to put pictures in different frames for our grandparents who have passed, my aunt and FH father. We are going to put it on the place card table or next to the place card table. We are also going to mention them in our programs.
Posted by futuremrsmultari
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father in April 2007 so I understand completely. We included my father's name on our invites despite what etiquette says. I wrapped my bo-k in his hankie and had a bo-k charm of his photo that said 'Walk Me Down The Aisle Dad, 2/29/08'.
We had a moment of silence in his memory during the ceremony and with that, dedicated our ceremony/wedding vows to him. Our DJ (yay for Vinny from High Voltage!) suggested I dance to a song with my husband in his memory. I danced to 'My Wish' by Rascal Flatts and had my family cut in. It was terribly hard but it was beautiful. I'm so glad Vinny suggested it. We also made a donation to the American Diabetes Association in his memory. I added a lot of things to make sure he was there in spirit and remembered but I kept it at a level that it wasn't depressing.
All I can really say is this: do what you're comfortable with and what you want to do. You can't let anyone else dictate something so personal.
Posted by autumnbride10
Posted by futuremrsmultari
Posted by autumnbride10
Where do I get the bo-k charms?
I was beyond thrilled with http://www.anniehowes.com/ I got the 1x1 and it was perfect!
Beautiful! What font did you use?
