Might be a soft spot-anyone have relationship problems w/FH?

So i was just wondering how many of us have had problems w/their FH's since becoming engaged.
FH & I have a great relationship-like most people we argue occasionally; but the good times definetely outway the times we're mad.

But oddly right after we got engaged we hit a rough spot. Not sure what brought it on...maybe stress of planning a wedding; thoughts of money; fears of 'getting married' we've since gotten past it and things couldn't be better. But those couple of weeks were VERY scary and i really questioned whether or not I actually wanted to get married! That was almost a year ago. Just wondering if anyone else experienced this phase during their engagement?

since my FH and I got enagged we've actually gotten better! we hardly ever fight and your right when we do the good times outweigh the bad.

maybe because we know we have to make things work together and by fighting we're hurting ourselves and being counterproductive.

I actually experienced that phase just prior to getting engaged and after getting engaged, it seems like it's only brought us closer.

It seems like most people do experience that phase sometime during their relationship and once you get past it, that's when you know that this relationship was meant to be.

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Posted by Notwedyet08

So i was just wondering how many of us have had problems w/their FH's since becoming engaged.
FH & I have a great relationship-like most people we argue occasionally; but the good times definetely outway the times we're mad.

But oddly right after we got engaged we hit a rough spot. Not sure what brought it on...maybe stress of planning a wedding; thoughts of money; fears of 'getting married' we've since gotten past it and things couldn't be better. But those couple of weeks were VERY scary and i really questioned whether or not I actually wanted to get married! That was almost a year ago. Just wondering if anyone else experienced this phase during their engagement?

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I experienced this... We solve the 'misunderstanding' we had and now we are SO much closer than before....

I can honestly say that getting engaged has brought us closer together. The fights we have now seem so materialistic b/c they are really just about the wedding but it has helped us communicate even better.

Even though the fights we have are about the wedding it helps us communicate better about bigger problems.

we are no different engaged than we were before were engaged. FH and I very rarely get into arguments and the ones we get into are never serious things (it's mostly him after a long night of drinking on the weekends and coming home at 4 in the morning being annoying when I have to wake up in 2 hours to get to work LOL).

As far as the wedding is concerned, we are pretty much on the same page as far as what we want for the wedding so no arguments there. The only thing I get on his case about is the Guest List which I have just given up and I am going to sit down with FMIL and straighten out the list without him.

I agree-i think that we had that rough spot but it brought us closer. I guess since we knew we were about to make a huge step in our relatinoship we needed to get any isues out of the way; and since then we're on the same page.

Luckily no BIG arguments while plannning the wedding (at least not yet LOL!).

I love him so much; and am so excited to become his wife and make babies together! LOL!

everyone goes through those times. The stress of moving along in your relationship can be monster scary!

LOL, my FH have been living together forever. We argue sometimes over the dumbest stuff. case in point - last night....

Ames, do you want me to wash anything for you?

Um...I'm comfy and don't wanna go get my clothes together.

Whatever, don't complain when you have nothing to wear tomorrow. (Slams door and storms out!)

lol...how dumb is that? This is what happens when you're an old 'married' couple like us!

The best part is when you get through that rough patch and feel closer than ever.

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Posted by allornil

everyone goes through those times. The stress of moving along in your relationship can be monster scary!

LOL, my FH have been living together forever. We argue sometimes over the dumbest stuff. case in point - last night....

Ames, do you want me to wash anything for you?

Um...I'm comfy and don't wanna go get my clothes together.

Whatever, don't complain when you have nothing to wear tomorrow. (Slams door and storms out!)

lol...how dumb is that? This is what happens when you're an old 'married' couple like us!

The best part is when you get through that rough patch and feel closer than ever.

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OMG are you serious!! I can't believe he stormed out and slammed the door! That sounds like something FH would do too!! I guess he got annoyed b/c he was trying to help you!

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Posted by Notwedyet08

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Posted by allornil

everyone goes through those times. The stress of moving along in your relationship can be monster scary!

LOL, my FH have been living together forever. We argue sometimes over the dumbest stuff. case in point - last night....

Ames, do you want me to wash anything for you?

Um...I'm comfy and don't wanna go get my clothes together.

Whatever, don't complain when you have nothing to wear tomorrow. (Slams door and storms out!)

lol...how dumb is that? This is what happens when you're an old 'married' couple like us!

The best part is when you get through that rough patch and feel closer than ever.

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OMG are you serious!! I can't believe he stormed out and slammed the door! That sounds like something FH would do too!! I guess he got annoyed b/c he was trying to help you!

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he's a complete brat! It's his Mom's fault. when he was little, he was such a brat that he'd throw a fit if he went to a bday party and didn't get his own gift or win those stupid games like pin the tail on the donkey. His parents brought him his own special one. I'm not lying!

To this day, his nickname is Nonyo, which is crybaby in Spanish. he's 31, his whole family still calls him that!

Yep it is true...
That little rough rockey road we got for 2weeks def. bough us Closer....

It will pass! Went through it the first 9 months of engagement, I questioned our relationship A LOT during that time! Now? Love him more than ever. I think it is all the stress of $$$$, wedding planning, and adjusting to each other ESPECIALLY when moving in together....You will work through it.

Yes for sure. We've only been engaged for a month and a half and all we do is fight about it. Mostly because I don't want this big stupid wedding that everyone is making me have. But honestly, between that, the money and just the stress of planning it all, we've definitely been fighting way more than we used to. Everyone says it will pass and I really hope it does! It seems like once you get the big stuff booked too you can relax for a little bit, and maybe that will make it better. Just know that lots of people go through it and you're not alone. We are all here for you!

FH and I have been the same since we got engaged, I think the renovating our new home has been the main source of stupid tiffs. Renovations=nightmare!

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Posted by mybabylovesmoi

FH and I have been the same since we got engaged, I think the renovating our new home has been the main source of stupid tiffs. Renovations=nightmare!

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UGH hate home nenovations!!

When we bought our house 2 years ago i thought i was gonna loose it with all the unexpected work we had to do!!!

It gets better! You'll soon get to decorate and just enjoy the house!

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Posted by allornil

everyone goes through those times. The stress of moving along in your relationship can be monster scary!

LOL, my FH have been living together forever. We argue sometimes over the dumbest stuff. case in point - last night....

Ames, do you want me to wash anything for you?

Um...I'm comfy and don't wanna go get my clothes together.

Whatever, don't complain when you have nothing to wear tomorrow. (Slams door and storms out!)

lol...how dumb is that? This is what happens when you're an old 'married' couple like us!

The best part is when you get through that rough patch and feel closer than ever.

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lmao that sounds like us! we have lived together a while and those are the stupid arguments we ahve also


overall - there really has been no change since we got engaged. we have the little stupid arguments and then get over it.


in teh past we had a major disagreement, I think everyone does, like someone said before, but when you make it through then you know you were meant to be! :)

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Posted by Notwedyet08

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Posted by mybabylovesmoi

FH and I have been the same since we got engaged, I think the renovating our new home has been the main source of stupid tiffs. Renovations=nightmare!

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UGH hate home nenovations!!

When we bought our house 2 years ago i thought i was gonna loose it with all the unexpected work we had to do!!!

It gets better! You'll soon get to decorate and just enjoy the house!

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We are close...set to move in a couple of weeks but omg the headaches...FH will sand every bump, spackle every crack (even if it will be covered by a piece of furniture) and I'n not that way at all. We painted a whole room and FH didn't like some areas he forgot to sand so we have to paint it again