MIL- VENT!!!

So with 10 days left to our wedding... FIL's tell us they are no longer paying for the rehearsal dinner!!!! My FIL's are whacked (that is being nice)!! The rehearsal dinner was actually my Bridal shower gift and our Wedding gift!!!!! Well it was to a local chinese buffet restaurant and it sux's!!!! So we just told them that we didn't think they would have enough food on the buffet for their normal friday night business and a party of around 30 ppl. They said... Oh that is good you thought of that... we never did. Ok well if you have any other suggestions let us know. That is fine.

So we suggested pizza as we knew it would be cheap for them. Well they send us an email saying that we took no regaurd for their gift and if pizza is what we want than fine but they are NOT paying for it!!!!

Were FH and I wrong to suggest doing it somewhere else?? We just felt that chinese buffet would not go over well with everyone. Not everybody likes chinese!!!!
Now we don't know what to do!!!!

edited for spelling!!!

Wow! I am so sorry they are acting like that! So they gave you a gift certificate to this restaurant to cover the dinner?
Maybe you just need to explain you appreciate the gift but it just isn't going to work for this purpose. You were tyring to be respectful and keep costs low, but you are happy to discuss alternatives with them.

Sorry they are acting that way--that's a bit childish.

Sit down and explain to them that not everyone can do Chinese and that you were merely offering up other suggestions that might be more agreeable and affordable.

Oh man! That sounds like something my wacky parents would do!
My mother insisted on having my sister's baby shower at a chinese restaurant and we faught about it forever. I told my sister and she cried hysterically thinking she would be the laughing stock of everyone, but it turned out fine. Yes, people thought eating chinese early sunday afternoon was weird...but it made for a day we'll all never forget!

You weren't wrong to suggest some place else, try sitting down with them and your FH and talking it out...maybe they just took it the wrong way!
Good Luck and keep us posted

Huh...weird. Why say it's ok and then flip out LATER? That's just bizarre..especially because your thoughts & concerns about the buffett are valid, there's no deposit that's to be lost (I'm guessing) and it's the RD which is prob the easiest dinner party in the world to change venues for since invitations tend to be so informal.

Oh well, with just 10 days left to go, everyone's nerves are probably just shredded & they're being super sensitive. I bet that the same subject 2 or 3 weeks ago wouldn't have had the same response. Just take a deep breath and ask your FH to field this one - it's his parents, so he should deal with it. I wouldn't worry too much, though - I'm willing to bet that they suddenly change their minds on the day of and try to grab the bill on their own

I think what sparked it was my FH called and asked FMIL to call the people from her side that hadn't RSVed yet. She said that if they were coming they would have sent it back. She isn't worried about it!!! Well yeah she isn't worried about it becasue she isn't paying for it!!!!
So then FH asked if the Aunt and Uncle called her back that asked if they could bring their kids because they had no baby sitter. (a week ago they called her and my FFIL told them to bring them ) It was stated on the RSVP that it was an ADULT reception. My FMIL told them to call back on Friday and she would let them know for sure after they spoke to us. Well my FH told her that they could not bring the kids. We were not paying that much money for children. Plus we didn't want children there except for the bridal party ones. She got all mad and started going off on FH and he said whatever and hung up. I think that is what totally made her flip out!!!!