mini vent.. just drive yourself!

FH and I were planning on getting a limobus for the entire bridal party, including 4 BMs, 1 MOH, 4 GMs, 1 Bman, 2 FGs, 2 RB's, both sets of parents AND family from Europe, because there is no one else to drive them... WHY is it that at least TWO of the couples in the BP don't want to go in the limobus, they'd rather drive themselves EVERYWHERE...
that means to either my house or FHs house, then to church, to photo location (which we have to pay PER VEHICLE), possibly a SECOND photo location then to the RH. AND that aunts and umcles want to tag along to the photo location... FOR WHAT!? we're doing FAMILY shots at the RH...

I HATE going through all this... its like we did EVERYTHING you wanted for YOUR wedding, but you have to argue with me over mine.. which I am basically requesting the SAME thing you did for yours!

I explained that we're being charged per vehicle and their reply 'so its just one more'.. um NO, its at least TWO more.. PLUS once everyone gets wind of you driving herself, they'll want to drive themselves.

and don't complain about where I picked for the photos... you tell me 'well thats such a far drive'... um hi, DON'T DRIVE!


I'm to the point where I just want to say 'eff it' and have everyone drive themselves, we'll save $$ on the limo and we'll just go somewhere FREE for pictures, like belmont lake or argyle.... or maybe we'll cancel the photographer too and just skip that whole thing!



eta- thanks for reading girls... I just needed to vent this out, and i know some of you will understand.

wow, im sorry you're dealing with this...

I just don't understand why people are so selfish and inconsiderate...the only person allowed to be selfish is the bride!

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Posted by LoveyDovey

wow, im sorry you're dealing with this...

I just don't understand why people are so selfish and inconsiderate...the only person allowed to be selfish is the bride!

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I agree. I'm dealing with some s**t now as well.

I know it sounds selfish, but just worry about yourself

Hold up - these people are actually expecting that you get another separate limo just to cater to their needs/wants? EFF THAT! And why are they complaining anyway? It's not like they are paying for the Partybus. And there is reason your aunts and uncles should be tagging along to your separate photo location if you are not doing family photos - it's just going to be distracting/confusing having all those extra people there will you're trying to take BP shots.

That is just so frustrating - I'm sorry you are going thru this.

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Posted by JohnnyandGia

Take pictures where you want and if anybody wants to drive themselves let them know how much it will cost THEM to park. Pictures are the one thing that will last forever and its how you get to remember your wedding, don't budge on your location. I'm having 8 bridesmaid so I know how it can be to have to listen to everyones opinion. Sorry you have to put with that.

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The thing is.. I want EVERYONE together... I dont want this couple and that couple to 'follow' and have to make a quick stop at the gas station then they get lost, while the other is hungry and stops at mcdonalds and there's a huge line then THAT one gets a flat tire and all of a sudden my pictures are missing more then half our bridal party.

Hey. I agree with you about wanting to keep everyone together due to unforeseen circumstances. Bottom-line is that you are paying for the Limo Bus – and it is YOUR wedding -which they agreed to be a part of (why would they need to drive there unless they plan on pulling over and getting freaky deaky- it really makes no sense otherwise unless they are concerned about time constraints but eff that it is your day!!)

Kindly explain to them that they are not allowed drive to locations themselves due to limited time and your concerns to keep everyone together and budget limitations – It means a lot to you that they are in your bridal party and explain that you wouldn’t want to ostracize anyone by showing favoritism and allowing special requests bc like you said if one person drives, others will be sure to ask questions or follow suit and that you appreciate them all equally. This is one thing I say you put your foot down on, you can only please everyone so much but when is it time to please yourself?… besides the only persons you should be stressing about on your day should be you and FH (your request isn’t far fetched and its pretty reasonable, economical, and common sense!!) Especially if you catered to their needs on their day!! They agreed to take-part in your special day – the only other option asides from you caving in (DON’T ) is for them not to be involved and if it comes down to that, maybe they don’t deserve be in your BP ~ You are not asking for an opinion from them – at the end of the day – your money – your wedding – your decision – its not like your asking them to go out of their way by being in the limo bus if they are already in the bridal party- so that’s that. I would say this is what its going to be and thanks for the options/suggestions but we already signed a contract and can’t make any changes without incurring further costs – or eff that tell them the company booked those vehicles already for your day and you aren’t looking elsewhere if the reasoning above doesn’t work.

Regarding the family members that want to tag along – kindly explain that while you appreciate their wanting to take time with you on your special day – you’ve already thought of them and will be your taking photos with everyone at the Reception Hall and have a schedule already set up with your photographer. Off site photos are specifically for personal and bridal party photos – anything else is going to cut into the cocktail hour and delay the start of the reception given your photo-site location preference. They should understand that you wouldn’t want to delay the start of the reception (that’s practically unheard of – and they can prose little argument to that)… so long *** you express that you appreciate them being a part of your day and the time you’ve already set aside at the RH they should hopefully see the light … plus you can always take some photos with them at the church as another option

Hope this helps… I’m so sorry you have deal with this.

i agree with Tauny,

tell them exactly what she said LOL!

having your aunts and other family tag along is not only confusing but stupid.
let everyone know they have to go in the limobus you guys are so generoulsy paying for!
tell them that way they can eat DRINK and be merry and not worry about getting home at night

You need to set them straight! This is YOUR wedding. The two couples, shouldn't have a choice - they HAVE to go in the bus. That's ridiculous!!!!

And the Aunts and Uncles, tell them NO, it's going to be too crazy!!

STAND UP FOR YOURSELF! THIS IS YOUR WEDDING!

You know what call me a bytch but I have no patience for this crap. This is your damn day and people need to understand that. You are paying alot of damn money for this limo bus. I'm sure it would much cheaper to get a regular limo.

The only phrase i want to hear during this planning process and on my wedding day is........' WHATEVER YOU WANT'.........



Sorry it sounded like i went off but I have dealt with this also

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Posted by NewYorker09
Are they worried about having their car to leave at the end of the night? Tell them to drop it off at the RH earlier in the day, which shouldn't be a problem since they're 2 people. I'm sorry you're dealing with this nonsense, I'd be through the roof!

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thats the problem is that its husband and wife, with children so husband and sons need to be with FH and wife and daughters need to be with me... plus they need a car at the RH and carseats... so thats where the issue is.

I understand its easier on THEM to just follow, but there are simple solutions that can make everyone happy... and it is only ONE day and we've all done it for them.

thanks for the input ladies!

if it were me, I would just let them drive by themselves..Let them feel the stern reactions from everyone else on your day, and bow to peer pressure at the last minute...

and if they decide to drive everywhere instead of taking the LimoBus, and are late to pics, well too bad - guess they wont be in the pictures!! Boo hoo.

ur right 'eff em' let them drive themselves!!!!

Anyone who wants to drive around the whole wedding should just do it! I mean they will see what happens at the end of the night when they are wasted and their car is in the park lot and no one can drive them home!

DO not let your BP drive you nuts! Or your family! Everyone always has except when it comes to them paying for things! You paid for the limos! You paid for the photographer! You picked the places! And you picked them to be in your party...so they should be gratiful and shut up! hahahah

I was a bridesmaid in a wedding in the middle of NOvember. For some reason, that day was freezing! and it had rained the night before and the bride and groom decided to take pictures at a castle. When we got to the castle, the steps were frozen and we were slipping everywhere! Also, we didnt have any shawls and we had strapless gowns so we were freezing during pictures. Now, did I or any of the BP say anything? Nope! We got in the car, took like 5 shots of tequila and kept it moving because its the bride's and groom's day and we did everything and anything to make her happy :) So dont let them get to you!