Has anyone had someone misunderstand that they were in the bridal party. I just found out that my cousins wife thinks she's in it and I just want to cry. I am the type of person that never wants to hurt anyone else's feelings. Has anyone had this happen to them, if so what did you do? I am really having such a horrible day.
no didnt have this happen. But why does she think shes in the bp? did she just assume? Well this is why people should never just assume. It is a horrible situation, i would feel bad about having to break the news too. But if you never asked her its not your fault she thinks shes in the bp. IS there anyway your cousin can break it to her
I havent but someone I know has and they ended up having to put them into the bridal party - she literally threw herslef in it....I would talk to her and tell her or at least your cousin. Why would she think she was in it??
well, my friend had this issue- she simply said i can't have EVERYONE I WANT...bc of FH's PARENTS wanting HIS 1st cousins and with MY childhood friends.the BP is to large, hope you understand...they totally understood...please- lol she's just a cousins wife...so she SHOULD understand..but if you stress the right words in a nice way..they'd never know lol u never really wanted them
I never asked her I don't know how this happened. I don't really want her in it. This was all through email. I can't believe this I just want to cry this is absolutely horrible.
that didnt happen to me, but i had a situation where someone made me feel bad for not asking them - it was ridiculous.....people should never assume or try to make you feel bad for not asking.....i would just tell her sorry but you already chose your bridesmaids and gently figure out a way to let her know she isnt one of them....dont have her in it because you feel bad, you will regret it...
maybe you can somehow explain to her that you already chose everyone in your BP but youwould be honored if she would do a reading or something at your ceremony.
Posted by JamieAnt06202009
I never asked her I don't know how this happened. I don't really want her in it. This was all through email. I can't believe this I just want to cry this is absolutely horrible.
I was joking around with my cousin in an email about being a gm and how i am so happy he's in the bridal party well anyway his wife opens the email and responds back and says that my cousin will get back to me later but they are both so happy to be in my bridal party. I was shocked I don't know where this came from. I asked my cousin to be a gm the day we got engaged which was August 1st. I never mentioned anything about his wife being involved.
Posted by JamieAnt06202009
I was joking around with my cousin in an email about being a gm and how i am so happy he's in the bridal party well anyway his wife opens the email and responds back and says that my cousin will get back to me later but they are both so happy to be in my bridal party. I was shocked I don't know where this came from. I asked my cousin to be a gm the day we got engaged which was August 1st. I never mentioned anything about his wife being involved.
i would talk to your cousin and he can break the news to his wife. i would tell him that you got the email and apologize for the misunderstanding!
Posted by Deeglasser
i would talk to your cousin and he can break the news to his wife. i would tell him that you got the email and apologize for the misunderstanding!
can you politely tell her that it must have been a misundertanding and that your FH wants to her husband as the GM and that while you would love to have her you just cant afford any more BMs
Posted by littlepixie12
can you politely tell her that it must have been a misundertanding and that your FH wants to her husband as the GM and that while you would love to have her you just cant afford any more BMs
something similar happened to me I had a friend who was trying to make me feel bad that I didnt pick her my answer was 'well as you know me and Rich have been together for like 10+ yrs so I've had my BP pick forever ago and I really didnt want a big BP I think 7 is already too many' she understood needless to say we no longer talk (for other reasons) but thank god I didnt ask her!
Posted by Deeglasser
i would talk to your cousin and he can break the news to his wife. i would tell him that you got the email and apologize for the misunderstanding!
How do you know she wants to be in the BP?? Has she spoken to you yet?? If she hasn't maybe casually in front of her you can talk about your bridal party and who is in it. That way you've addressed it but didn't have to have that awkward conversation!
