So today IS 6 months til our day. FH sent me flowers to the office this morning and though I'm excited and all, we are currently in our second real fight EVER over wedding costs....
So I'm sitting at my desk crying while I have a gorgeous bouquet of flowers to look at....
mrsdraskin2009
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Aww thats so sweet!!!
Don't worry, the fight will blow over!
Enjoy the flowers!!
jackieee
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Weddings are soo expensive (way too much IMO). It's hard and definitely can cause some stress and fights. Obviously, he feels bad and sent the flowers. maybe when you get home you both can talk about your feelings and the fight and try to come to some sort of solution/compromise.
Remember, in 6 months you will be marrying the man of your dreams! Money issues will always come up in your marriage, so try to figure out and learn a good way to communicate about them now. It will get better. I'm sorry you're so upset!
halfbaked
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It happens, don't let it ruin your day. Just think in 6 months it'll be all over and you'll be married!
AwaitingAugust
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call him up and work out the issue ... weddings always cause money stress ... but it'll be fine in the end
rdubs
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call him up and work out the issue ... weddings always cause money stress ... but it'll be fine in the end
We are actually IMing the fight....its about the hotel room the night before and after the wedding. He thinks we should just stay at our apartment BOTH nights since we live in the city and I'm trying to push to stay in hotel ESPECIALLY because I don't want to see him the night before...he thinks its stupid....I don't think its enough money to fight me about and he should just give in....thanks girls!
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Weddings are very stressful and I totally understand why your upset but the money troubles are hopefully temporary until after the wedding. Just remember why you are having this wedding in the first place, because you love your FH and he obviously loves you too!!! Enjoy the beautiful flowers and take a deep breath!
GonnaBeeMrsG
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Aww thats so sweet! Feel better
NanandEric08
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Posted by rdubs
Posted by AwaitingAugust
call him up and work out the issue ... weddings always cause money stress ... but it'll be fine in the end
We are actually IMing the fight....its about the hotel room the night before and after the wedding. He thinks we should just stay at our apartment BOTH nights since we live in the city and I'm trying to push to stay in hotel ESPECIALLY because I don't want to see him the night before...he thinks its stupid....I don't think its enough money to fight me about and he should just give in....thanks girls!
Can you guys maybe compromise and just stay in the hotel room one night?
jackieee
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Posted by AwaitingAugust
call him up and work out the issue ... weddings always cause money stress ... but it'll be fine in the end
We are actually IMing the fight....its about the hotel room the night before and after the wedding. He thinks we should just stay at our apartment BOTH nights since we live in the city and I'm trying to push to stay in hotel ESPECIALLY because I don't want to see him the night before...he thinks its stupid....I don't think its enough money to fight me about and he should just give in....thanks girls!
Since you don't want to see him before, could you stay at a girlfriend's house? Or maybe he could stay at someone's house? I understand you not wanting to spend the night together, but I get not wanting to spend it on the hotel.
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totally normal to fight...FH and I almost called it off in Nov..now we joke about it...
I think you should compromise. I can understand night before but I think it's cute to go to apt the first night as being MR and MRs and he can carry you across the threshold!
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Enjoy your flowers and your day....
marinai7
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It's sweet that he got you flowers. Sorry about the fight - maybe you can compromise and just stay 1 day.
rdubs
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Posted by AwaitingAugust
call him up and work out the issue ... weddings always cause money stress ... but it'll be fine in the end
We are actually IMing the fight....its about the hotel room the night before and after the wedding. He thinks we should just stay at our apartment BOTH nights since we live in the city and I'm trying to push to stay in hotel ESPECIALLY because I don't want to see him the night before...he thinks its stupid....I don't think its enough money to fight me about and he should just give in....thanks girls!
Can you guys maybe compromise and just stay in the hotel room one night?
We are trying to figure that out now....and we are getting there and will possibly do just our wedding night....I just want to stay where all our guests are staying the night of the wedding! Its hard when you have an idea in your head of what you want and its coming to terms that it may not make sense....just frustrating temporarily but I know it will work out.
Thanks girls for all the hugs and uplifting thoughts--it does make me feel better.
JAAMS
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awwwww it's ok
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Posted by rdubs
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Posted by rdubs
Posted by AwaitingAugust
call him up and work out the issue ... weddings always cause money stress ... but it'll be fine in the end
We are actually IMing the fight....its about the hotel room the night before and after the wedding. He thinks we should just stay at our apartment BOTH nights since we live in the city and I'm trying to push to stay in hotel ESPECIALLY because I don't want to see him the night before...he thinks its stupid....I don't think its enough money to fight me about and he should just give in....thanks girls!
Can you guys maybe compromise and just stay in the hotel room one night?
We are trying to figure that out now....and we are getting there and will possibly do just our wedding night....I just want to stay where all our guests are staying the night of the wedding! Its hard when you have an idea in your head of what you want and its coming to terms that it may not make sense....just frustrating temporarily but I know it will work out.
Thanks girls for all the hugs and uplifting thoughts--it does make me feel better.
I completely undersatnd where you are coming from! Compromise can be such a pain in the a$$ sometimes. I am the WORST at it!!
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Don't worry it will be okay!
Nina1010
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The flowers may be a peace offering. Try to talk it over with him... money stress is the root of most engagement fights. It is always on the mind...esp. when you pay for it yourselves.
rdubs
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The flowers may be a peace offering. Try to talk it over with him... money stress is the root of most engagement fights. It is always on the mind...esp. when you pay for it yourselves.
He actually arranged for flowers to be delivered today (probably set it up on Friday) to celebrate our negative six month anniversary and fight only started this morning so its ironic and makes the whole flower delivery funnier........we never fight so the one time he gets me flowers, I'm annoyed with him!
He's kind of giving in right now re: the hotel situation and is starting to see my point...we will see!
