Id LOVE to see the dress that your FH mom(your FMIL) got for your wedding! PLEASe post a picture.....bc i need to MAYBE clear my mind about something!!!!
I would SOOOO APPRECIATE IT!!!!
THANKS GIRLS!!!!!!
Why? My FMIL took me, and her 2 daughters to look for dresses about 5 months ago...we found a BEAUTIFUL one!! But she decided to wait to order it....well she waited to long....and couldnt get it. My FH told her she needed to go and look....and i THOUGHT she would take me again, but went with her daughters and found one.
The dress is something you would wear to someone ELSES wedding, not your sons. My FH and I both think its not dressy enough, its like a blue color.....straight dress...with a jacket...no beads, no rhinestones, no nothing. We really wanted her to get something dressy!! So that people KNOW shes the mother of the groom. I dont know how to tell her, that we want her to look more SPECIAL! My mom got her dress....and she looks like a PRINCESS! Maybe im overreacting....but maybe its because we feel like its not a big deal to her...this wedding and all....
If I had a pic I would post it... i am soo sorry....but you have to elaborate...WHY????
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My FMIL took me, and her 2 daughters to look for dresses about 5 months ago...we found a BEAUTIFUL one!! But she decided to wait to order it....well she waited to long....and couldnt get it. My FH told her she needed to go and look....and i THOUGHT she would take me again, but went with her daughters and found one.
The dress is something you would wear to someone ELSES wedding, not your sons. My FH and I both think its not dressy enough, its like a blue color.....straight dress...with a jacket...no beads, no rhinestones, no nothing. We really wanted her to get something dressy!! So that people KNOW shes the mother of the groom. I dont know how to tell her, that we want her to look more SPECIAL! My mom got her dress....and she looks like a PRINCESS! Maybe im overreacting....but maybe its because we feel like its not a big deal to her...this wedding and all....
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I had a similar problem with my FMIL, but I took her all over. Finally she went by herself to Bridal Reflections again, and she found a saleswoman who made her try on a bunch of dresses. She finally narrowed it down, brought me back, and we ordered one.
Both our moms (FH and I) are nurses, and live in scrubs. So they don't like to get all fancy shmancy.. but I told them that this day was about them too, and that they should be dressed accordingly. After me, the guests will be looking at them.. so they hopped on board and got beautiful gowns.
I hope it all works out with your FMIL.... lots of
Kim51103
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But now i dont know how to tell her....i dont think shes gonna wanna GO again....this really upsets me
Kiddo115
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Posted by Kim51103
But now i dont know how to tell her....i dont think shes gonna wanna GO again....this really upsets me
God how I hated dress shopping.. and with my parents being divorced... I had a few extra 'mom's' to take out!
I wish you all the luck Kim... I would be honest with her, just emphasizing that you really want her to 'sparkle' on her sons special day.
Kim51103
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Thanks girls......this isnt easy unfortunatly
tiffandmatt
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Honestly, I think that it should be up to your MIL what she wants to wear. Perhaps she is just not a sparkly, rhinestone, and glittery type dress person.
Maybe when it came the original dress she found with you, she was only going to get it cause she knew you liked it. And when she later went shopping with her daughter, she found what really made her feel good.
To be honest I told my mom and she aggreed that I don't want her wearing the typical mother of the bride dress. That is just not my Moms stlye. My Mom's not the princess dress type. And I don't want her to wear something that is going to make her look differnt than what I know my Mom to be. I want her to wear what makes her feel pretty for the day.
I know that you want her to look ultra fancy, and I agree that I it's annoying people attend weddings in things that look like something you were to work at a casual office. But still, maybe this is just her style. I would not stress over it, once she gets her hair done, puts on a pretty necklace necklace and has her corasge she will look perfect.
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Honestly, I think that it should be up to your MIL what she wants to wear. Perhaps she is just not a sparkly, rhinestone, and glittery type dress person.
Maybe when it came the original dress she found with you, she was only going to get it cause she knew you liked it. And when she later went shopping with her daughter, she found what really made her feel good.
To be honest I told my mom and she aggreed that I don't want her wearing the typical mother of the bride dress. That is just not my Moms stlye. My Mom's not the princess dress type. And I don't want her to wear something that is going to make her look differnt than what I know my Mom to be. I want her to wear what makes her feel pretty for the day.
I know that you want her to look ultra fancy, and I agree that I it's annoying people attend weddings in things that look like something you were to work at a casual office. But still, maybe this is just her style. I would not stress over it, once she gets her hair done, puts on a pretty necklace necklace and has her corasge she will look perfect.
I totally agree with this!! Maybe what makes her feel really special is wearing something that she can feel confident in. Even though its not your idea of what is special, she may just prefer and be more confident in something simple.
DrBeLLaRoSe
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i had a similar situation...my fmil went out and bought herself a lime green 40 dollar dress for our wedding... my fh told me and i let him know that i was not happy with that because i thought she should be wearing something prettier/more fancy. Fh himself hated the dress so he told her and she returned it. then we proceed to take her three times to go dress shopping. the first two times she kept looking at young prom dresses which were completely innappropriate... finally i took her to Bridal reflections and she picked out on her own the pretty dress i posted on the 06 board.
if you really dont like the dress, have your fh talk to her about it and see how she feels. she might hae just gotten it because she could not find anything else. but if she got it because she loves it, then you should let her keep it... in the end, no one really pays so much attention to the mog.
hope this helps! good luck
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sorry wrong thread!
LBride
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My mom wore a black dress with a jacket (it had beads though)... to my brother's wedding... nothing crazy dressy but she was comfortable in it. Everyone was able to tell she was the MOG since half of the guests were hers! I wouldn't worry about it if I were you.. .get her a nice corsage or something to add some fun.
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you should consider yourself lucky. My FMIL wants to be the center of attention and i can only imagine what she'll end up with -- first it was a wedding gown, then an expensive black thing that was 'outrageous' and I also heard talk of a bright red ballgown.
