MOH problem...what should I do?

I had chosen my MOH a long time ago--my best friend from high school who I had alwasy known I wanted as my MOH. Soon after that, I decided to have 2 MOH and also chose my best friend from college. Well, I'm not as close to my best friend from college anymore, and lately I've been having second thoughts about her being a MOH. I also know that the first MOH is feeling hurt that she's not the only one. She knows that she's my best best friend and also, the 2nd MOH has been leaving her out of any shower planning that has begun.

Long story short, would it be a bad idea to make the 2nd MOH a bridesmaid at this point (I still have 1 year before the wedding)? How would I tell her?! I feel horrible about this, but the truth is...I feel like we've drifted and I dont see us staying close friends after the wedding (with her moving to Cali and me and FI moving around due to the army). It just doesnt seem right to have her as a MOH.

I too had two MOH. (That's a mouthful) I gave them different aspects to be in charge of. One was in charge of my bachelorette party because she was my best friend from college. The other was put in charge of games and plans for the shower because it was my sister and she's crafty.

I would talk with them, especially the one that seems to be taking charge of things and leaving the other out. She might not be meaning to do it and just needs to be aware that's a shared responsibility. If she keeps it up, then demote her. But be prepared for her to drop out all together. But don't be afraid to talk to her just because you think you'll hurt her feelings. You don't want BM that aren't getting along.

I also made sure that every decision made was okayed by every BM and that the MOH wasn't just doing things on her own.