MOH question

kimnsteve Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:22 PM

MOH question

is ur MOH super invloved?

mine hasnt asked me a darn thing !
i understand she has a newborn ( 5 months), but she doesnt work nor does she leave her house much.

i just feel like i made a huge mistake
she was so excited in the beginning especially since i helped plan her baby shower for her ...
i feel like there isnt going to be anything special for me

i know i sound selfish ...but i was torn between two friends and now i know i shouldve chosen the other one!

Espo22 Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:24 PM

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sorry you feel that way...my MOH is very helpful and always asking questions, shes been asking me dozens of questions about my bridal shower and its so far away...She always offers if i need help with anything and has been great.

Maybe speak to her about how you feel, she might not realize what she is doing

DnellD809 Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:26 PM

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I have a bridesmaid who is SO excited and SO involved with everything you would think she's my MOH...
My real one really doesn't seem too into it!

kimnsteve Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:27 PM

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Posted by DnellD809

I have a bridesmaid who is SO excited and SO involved with everything you would think she's my MOH...
My real one really doesn't seem too into it!

thats exactly whats happening with me ....so weird ..i would be so honored to be someones MOH

Jasonsgirl Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:27 PM

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Mine is not really involved. It my aunt, my mom sister. My mom has been helping me with everything. I have been going to look at vendor with my fiance alot too. I guess when we go look at dress and stuff it will be different. I know that her and my mom will plan my shower.

blu6385 Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:28 PM

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mine isnt super involved ... i give her crap about it all the time ... dont get me wrong sometimes she emails me with things and when i need or want her to do it she does ... but i understand were your coming from .... i think maybe when it gets closer shell be more into it ...

DnellD809 Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:28 PM

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Posted by kimnsteve

Posted by DnellD809

I have a bridesmaid who is SO excited and SO involved with everything you would think she's my MOH...
My real one really doesn't seem too into it!

thats exactly whats happening with me ....so weird ..i would be so honored to be someones MOH

I know! Me too....in fact I am MOH right now in my friends wedding and I've been there EVERY step of the way and SO excited about everything! I love it...
I just think if your NOT into it...say NO

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:29 PM

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My MoH has two small children and works full time- her husband also works full time. She is super excited and is helping every way she can but I understand that she can't do everything.. worst of all our schedules conflict too much most of the time till the summer. But I wouldn't have anyone else as my MoH except her.
My bridesmaids are excited as well but one lives OOT and can't help much but the other is really excited and helpful.

ant n tilde Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:34 PM

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my MOH is very involved BUT if you have a BM who is enthusiastic - there is no reason that she cant help you out!! I was my MOH's BM ( got it?) and I definitely helped her more than her OWN MOH. . .

kimnsteve Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:38 PM

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i guess i just thought it would be different ya know .....seriously nothing ...she even forgot what my last name is going to be!!!!!!!!!!!

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:41 PM

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Posted by kimnsteve

i guess i just thought it would be different ya know .....seriously nothing ...she even forgot what my last name is going to be!!!!!!!!!!!

that's a little excessive...

My MOH is my sister - she's 17 and could care less.

My BP isn't involved at all... I thought it was normal. It doesn't bother me. As long as they show up I'm OK.

Crystan08 Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:41 PM

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My sis is SUPER involved (who is my MOH) and I am very lucky because when it was her turn (and getting married was the last thing on my mind) i don't think I was that into the whole wedding and MOH thing. If it weren't for her though, i'd be planning all by my lonesome!!!

KickinDandelions Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:46 PM

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I haven't picked out my MOH yet because I'm afraid that in a few months my feelings may change...so I'm not going to ask until 6 months before the date...hoepfully not too much changes after that!

I would expect her to at the very least be interested in what's going on..but I guess you can't expect everyone to be excited for you

Hope things get better for you!

soon2BMrsMcD Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:49 PM

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Posted by KickinDandelions

I haven't picked out my MOH yet because I'm afraid that in a few months my feelings may change...so I'm not going to ask until 6 months before the date...hoepfully not too much changes after that!

I would expect her to at the very least be interested in what's going on..but I guess you can't expect everyone to be excited for you

Hope things get better for you!

I'm doing the same thing!! We haven't asked ANYONE yet! It's so much easier this way since I'm a control freak!

KickinDandelions Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:50 PM

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Posted by soon2BMrsMcD

Posted by KickinDandelions

I haven't picked out my MOH yet because I'm afraid that in a few months my feelings may change...so I'm not going to ask until 6 months before the date...hoepfully not too much changes after that!

I would expect her to at the very least be interested in what's going on..but I guess you can't expect everyone to be excited for you

Hope things get better for you!

I'm doing the same thing!! We haven't asked ANYONE yet! It's so much easier this way since I'm a control freak!

yes...definitely..FH and I are control freaks too haha.

kimnsteve Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:52 PM

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thats very smart! i shouldve waited ...i was just so excited to be planning ...ya know

soon2BMrsMcD Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:52 PM

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Phewwww glad to see we're not the only couple doing it this way!

ant n tilde Posted: Apr 02, 2007 02:53 PM

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we didnt wait but our BP is the bare minimum so we couldnt leave anyone out even if we wanted to

well technically we want to - we just cant bc that would be mean lol

femmes Posted: Apr 02, 2007 03:04 PM

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That is tough when the MOH isnt involved. My sister is my MOH and we are best friends. I have been in weddings where the MOH didnt help with any planning, where us bridesmaids were doing everything. I understand sometimes girls dont want to choose between friends and make others angry...At the same time if your friend feels like she cant complete her duties, maybe you guys should really sit down and discuss it. Your wedding is about you, and all involved should take part and be honored.