MOH question

does anyone know of a site that plainly details the responsibilities/expectations of a MOH?

i recently found out that my MOH had no clue she should have a role in planning my shower! (or what a shower really is for that matter - scary, i know!)

[i guess this is one of the 'unfortunate' things about being the first of my friends to get married!]

thanks for any help!

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Look on the knot.com and search for Maid Of Honor. At one point I printed out a list from there. If you cant find it let me know maybe I could find my list for you!

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I second that. the Knot.com has some great articles

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I got this from the knot for you.




Maid of Honor: Your Duties in Detail



The maid/matron of honor is part worker bee, part emotional lifeboat. Chosen for her energetic, get-the-ball-in-motion qualities, she should also remember that listening to the bride, making her laugh, and offering emotional and logistical support is also part of the honor attendant package. Here's a cheat sheet listing all of the duties:


Lead the bridesmaid troupe. It's the maid/matron of honor's (MOH) job to direct the other maids through their duties. Make sure all bridesmaids get their dresses, go to dress fittings, and find the right jewelry. Also provide them with the 411 on all pre-wedding parties.


Help shop for dresses (the bride's and the bridesmaids'). And the MOH pays for her own entire wedding outfit (including shoes).


Offer to help the bride with pre-wedding tasks, from addressing invites to choosing the wedding colors to nodding enthusiastically when she waxes poetic about wedding cake.


Spread the news about where the bride and groom are registered.


Host or co-host a shower for the bride.


Attend all pre-wedding parties.


Keep a record of all the gifts received at various parties and showers (or delegate a bridesmaid to handle this).


Plan the bachelorette party with the bridesmaids.


See to it that all bridesmaids get to the rehearsal; coordinate transportation and lodging, if necessary.


Make sure that all bridesmaids get their hair and makeup done, get to the ceremony on time, and have the correct bouquets.


Hold the groom's ring during the ceremony. Safest place to put it? On the thumb.


Arrange the bride's train and veil before the ceremony begins and just after she arrives at the altar. The MOH might also need to help her bustle the train for easy dancing at the reception.


Hold the bride's bouquet while the couple exchanges vows.


Sign the marriage license as a witness, along with the best man.


Stand next to the groom in the receiving line (this is optional; the bride may decide to have attendants circulate among the guests instead).


Play hostess along with the other bridesmaids at frequent points during the reception: show guests where to sit, direct them to restrooms, tell them to where to put presents, invite them to sign the guest book, etc.


Collect any gift envelopes brought to the reception and keep them in a safe place.


Make sure the bride takes a moment to eat something -- refresh her drinks, get her a plate of food from the buffet table, or instruct wait staff to keep her entree warm.


Dance with the best man during the formal first-dance sequence and possibly be announced with him at the beginning of the party. Also dance with other groomsmen, the groom, and more.


Toast the couple after the best man.


Troubleshoot emotional crises. In most cases, this will require lots of tissues, hugging, and hair-smoothing. The MOH continues to be a trusted friend, a good listener, and a smart advisor.


Help the bride change for her honeymoon and take charge of her gown after the ceremony. Arrange for storage in a safe place until she returns.


Lend an ear. Whether it's about the planning, the marriage, or the registry china patterns, the MOH should assure the bride that she has someone with whom she can share her thoughts. Even if she seems to dwell on the same subjects repeatedly, the MOH keeps listening.


Keep the bride laughing. For the stressed-out bride, laughter can be as effective as venting.

Re: MOH question

The main role of the Maid of Honor is to help the bride with the wedding planning... this can include shopping for dresses, addressing invitations, putting together favors and just being there when the bride needs some extra help, support or someone to talk to.

Traditionally, there are some specific duties that the maid of honor is to perform:

Host the bridal shower. Today, this is usually done with the help of the other bridesmaids.

Helps the bride get dressed on her wedding day.

Adjusts the bride's veil and train before she walks down the aisle and during the ceremony as needed.

Holds the bride's bouquet during the wedding ceremony.

Holds the groom's ring wedding ring until the exchange of the rings, if there is no ring bearer.

Witnesses the signing of the marriage license.

Helps the bride bustle her gown prior to the beginning of the reception.

If you are a Maid of Honor, the most important thing is to continually offer your assistance and support to the bride throughout the entire wedding planning process. We all need our friends - but during those stressful times of wedding planning - you need your best friend even more!

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Oh I have a great site:
Bridesmaid Aid

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thank you all so much!