MOH -- vent....

BRIDE62610 Posted: Jan 28, 2010 01:27 PM

MOH -- vent....

so on Saturday we went to finalize the BM dresses & my MOH made a HUGE stink abotu 'not looking different' the day of mty wedding b/c she was wearing the same dress as everyone else... So, I found her something that I liked that was a little different.. NOW she emails me and asks if I mind that she does her own hair because she wants to wear it down & curl it.. THE BASICALLY SAME THING I was going to do to my hair!!!

Does she NOT realize it's NOT her day?!?!

What does one do?! She's very touchy & if I say something I know it will start a HUGE ordeal... but, come on!

julesrbf Posted: Jan 28, 2010 01:28 PM

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Um, why would she care about standing out? That's not the point of the day. YOU are the point of the day. Honestly, she needs to get her attitude in check and realize it is NOT about her.

amandamichael Posted: Jan 28, 2010 01:31 PM

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oh god, just tell her no, and that she cant wear her hair like you, and its your wedding day and one day shell get her own day to be able to wear her hair the way she wants and pick her own dresses

try to just ignore it i know its hard, girls can be so terrible sometimes

PROBM Posted: Jan 28, 2010 01:32 PM

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hive her a bigger bouquet thats what I did

jcreilly Posted: Jan 28, 2010 01:37 PM

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tell her it your wedding -not hers!

my MOH will also be in the same dress as everyone else.

asg450 Posted: Jan 28, 2010 01:41 PM

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Posted by julesrbf

Um, why would she care about standing out? That's not the point of the day. YOU are the point of the day. Honestly, she needs to get her attitude in check and realize it is NOT about her.

I agree, this is your day not hers.

nraboni Posted: Jan 28, 2010 01:45 PM

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I am just going to express my honest opinion regarding the hair situation. I honestly don't think anyone is going to focus on the fact that you both have your hair down and curly. I would just let that one go.

VallieGirl Posted: Jan 28, 2010 01:53 PM

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Posted by nraboni

I am just going to express my honest opinion regarding the hair situation. I honestly don't think anyone is going to focus on the fact that you both have your hair down and curly. I would just let that one go.

ITA with this. Everyone is going to be looking at you no matter what she does to try to stand out. I agree that she should feel a little more special (ie bigger boquet, more jewlery) but the hair is not going to matter to you at all on the day.

AdriandSteve Posted: Jan 28, 2010 02:03 PM

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I think it's a little weird about her wanting to look different... I agree.

BUT

I don't think you have a say in how she wears her hair. Esp. if she's paying for it. If you are that's a little different but still.... it's her hair.
I MIGHT tell one of my BM's to wear her hair differently... but she's my identical twin and i'm still up in the air about this.

mzmahagony Posted: Jan 28, 2010 02:12 PM

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I dont think that it should matter how she does her hair. Everyone knows that you are the bride so if you have the same hairstyle that shouldnt really be a problem. I dont mind how my girls di their hair because they are paying for it at the end of te day. Unless you are paying fot their hair I think it's okay for her to do her hair how she wants.JMO

NY031978 Posted: Jan 28, 2010 02:13 PM

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if she wants to stand out from the rest

Diff Dress
Diff style Shoes
if you are giving her DOJ...Id get her something diff as well
Flowers can be a diff style from the BM or just bigger
If all the BM are hair up and yours is down..and you want to be the only 1 like that...what about meetin in the middle let her do it 1/2 up 1/2 down? Or all up but maybe a clip or something to make it look different from the rest

at the end of the day...its your day so she should understand that. I know I had some of the same issues and I was pissed diff as well....but after it was said and done I looked back and said who noticed the diff....not a soul but me and it didnt make or break my day! But I totally see how you feel...

AngnShaun Posted: Jan 28, 2010 02:20 PM

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Posted by VallieGirl

Posted by nraboni

I am just going to express my honest opinion regarding the hair situation. I honestly don't think anyone is going to focus on the fact that you both have your hair down and curly. I would just let that one go.

ITA with this. Everyone is going to be looking at you no matter what she does to try to stand out. I agree that she should feel a little more special (ie bigger boquet, more jewlery) but the hair is not going to matter to you at all on the day.

ITA....

BRIDE62610 Posted: Jan 28, 2010 02:27 PM

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i'm not so much upset about the hair as I am just the fact that she 'felt like she needed to stand out' which is fine.. but she didn't even ask my thoughts on it. She kind of just made a stink at the bridal salon. Now, she emails me to tell me what shoes she's wearing, etc..Again, NOT EVEN asking if I wanted them to wear all the same shoes, etc. I just feel like she's making my decisions FOR ME and trying to run my day.

I told her that I was still thinking about the shoes and I would let her know.... And as far as the hair goes, I told her I was planning to wear mine down and maybe half up half down and if she wanted to that was fine, but we might look similar and I know she wnats to stand out.. (I kind of threw her thoughts back at her) she agreed and said 'maybe I'll do mine differently'...

I was HOPING not to deal with this at all, but I guess there's always a few small problems to deal with.... ANd i Know that ony MY day everyone will focus on ME... I jsut hope she doesn't take the 'I want to stand out' too far...

:(

LadyDuda81509 Posted: Jan 28, 2010 03:10 PM

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trust me nobody is going to be worried about her! EVERYONES eyes are going to be on you no matter what her hair looks like!

i understand your pain, but trust me things like that are not worth stressing over cuz it will be your day i promise!!

Thats-What-She-Said Posted: Jan 28, 2010 04:01 PM

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I think you should make her feel special if she wants to stand out a little bit. You are asking her to take on a lot of responsibilities(whether you agree or not) and you are putting her in a very honorable position. If it is going to make her feel better to wear her hair down let her. In the end it doesn't really matter.

leesah85 Posted: Jan 28, 2010 04:35 PM

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I wouldn't worry about it. I've heard about MOH's wanting to stand out - maybe a different color bouquet? or is it too late for that?

I don't think the hair thing is a big deal, but it's your wedding so you should be happy :)