MOH Vent - sorry long

I'm so upset about MOH. We work together so, we see each other everyday, don't you know she never mentions anything about the wedding, nothing!! If I don't mention something or ask something the subject would never be approached. back in December I was like, my mom wants to talk to you about the BS and at the time she was like, oh, I'm in school and when school is done I can focus more on it. When school ended I think she called my mom once and since then, nothing. I spoke to her about, it seems as if she could care less about my wedding and she was like, oh, it's not that, she trying to reapply for school for the new semester and she's haveing problems and that's why she hasn't really gotten into it. I'm like, what does that have to do with asking me what's going on or what I'm going to need help with, I see you everyday!! I try to not let it bother me, but I can't help it. She hasn't even asked me anything about the bachelorette party(I was thinking I would like to do it at Foxwoods the weekend of my Bday March 25 so I figured we'd all go Mar 24 - Mar 26). I've shared this with her, but she I guess just ignored it. I'm thinking of making one of my other BM my second MOH (FI may be asking one of his brothers to be his second BM) and see if she can take over where my first MOH never picked up. What do you ladies think?

You definitely need a MOH that will be responsible and helpful. I say add on another MOH.
You should actually probably demote the girl, and say, hey- if you dont have time, then I can ask someone else- make it no biig deal.
Otherwise, double up.

I am in a similar situation
dont dump her, simplyhave a nice chat

Join the club.

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Posted by October Bliss

My MOH is my sister, and she never asks about my wedding.

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Me too She doesn't want to be involved in anything.

Im right with you on this one girls.... had a big post in brides helping brides about my BS...

I had two MOH's my sister and my best friend that I know longer then my sister! My sister is a 2nd year resident at LIJ (so she's very busy), my best friend lives out of state. From the time I got engaged until about a month before my wedding... getting in touch with my MOH (not my sister) was like pulling teeth! She more than made up for it the week leading up to my wedding though. She took a week off from work and came down that Friday before and spent the entire week doing everything possible for me. I worked that Mon and Tues of the week leading up to my wedding. It more than made up for the 7 months leading up to the wedding!!!

Those in our bridal parties just don't have the same sense of urgency or excitement about OUR weddings! I was in wedding world for 8 months and couldn't grasp that it was only that important to me and not as important to her.

Talk to her!!! And play nice.

i had to switch my moh about 6 months before the wedding. not my choice...my moh lost her job. so i picked a friend. she would ask a few things. since the wedding, i haven't seen her. first she said she was busy with school, no she goes to ct to see the guy she was seeing. i would really like to see her

it will all work out

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Posted by October Bliss

My MOH is my sister, and she never asks about my wedding.

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i hear ya, and when she doesn't she's criticising somethng