Mom keeps talking to me about my shower and asking for help

Mom keeps talking to me about my shower and asking for help

I feel bad but I keep telling her I don't wanna know ANYTHING. (She is keeping the date and place a surprise) She tells me everything thats going on...whos coming...whos not..I had to wrap my own gifts...buy boxes and paper for myself ..address my own invitations...yesterday she made me write the saying that she is going to put on the tables and she told me that my FI is my cover story. How could I not figure this out? I know it's next week because FI said that we have to go to an 'engagement party' when I asked to see the invitation he said he was just invited by word of mouth. I know it's in may because when I told her that we are moving into our new apartment June 1st, the first thing she said is 'Where are we going to put all your shower gifts? 'My mom is also really frantic this week asking me that everything needs to be wrapped up right away. I really wanted to be surprised and she still thinks that it's not a big deal for her to make me do all this because she hasn't told me the date.

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I think she is trying really hard to make sure that you have the 'shower of your dreams'. I guess she thinks that the only way to gaurantee that you LOVE everything is to get you personally involved

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I say just try to suck it up and not let yourself get too upset about it. Moms can just not make sense sometimes but I am sure all she is doing is with the best intentions.

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How many people in your BP... are they helping your mom? it isn't a 1 person job

she probably is trying to make everything go perfect

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There are five in my bridal party and my mom told me that not a single one has called and offered to help. I know her intentions are good but it's also very frustrating to plan your own surprise party

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Mine is still a long way from now but I'm extremely picky and notice things no one else would. But I'm quite sure my bridal party and my MOH would probably work together. But I told my MOH if she needed help with anything, I'd not mind doing it. She said she will keep the date and the place as a surprise and would probably start the planning a few months in advance so I don't have a clue. I'd also would give her a list of people that she can invite because I only want close people to come. And maybe your mom is doing this so that everything she does, is perfect and the way you like it. JMO

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WOW, I find it kinda weird...theres no way she trying to throw you off is there? I would say bluntly I DONT WANT TO KNOW...she must be able to hear you on that one? I wouldnt do my own gifts...Can you call a BM, or you MOH and ask WHY your doing all this? I complain a lot to my MOH and I would be upset that I was doing it all....JMO

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Posted by hugs213

There are five in my bridal party and my mom told me that not a single one has called and offered to help. I know her intentions are good but it's also very frustrating to plan your own surprise party

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Hugs........................

Is your mom waiting for them to call?

At this point, I think she should call a few of them to spread the word to help out. I am sure they will be thrilled to be apart of your shower planning event.

I only have 1 moh that lives in nyc...the rest live down south..but, they are all trying...there best.

Your mom loves you and I am sure she is trying her best!!!

She sounds like my mom

Good Luck

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Don't feel bad...my mom made me call hotels near my job and ask about having my shower there so she can get my company discount! I have to book my own shower location??? WHAT????
Oh well, she's doing the whole thing on her own and needs all the help she can get. She's new to this and since I am the first getting married, and she doesn't trust anyone else to do as good a job as herself, she is enlisting my help. Her thoughts on it are 'you know you're gettin one anyways, you just dont know when!'