Mom vent-kinda long
I hate to be such a downer on the day after thanksgiving but I really need to get this off my chest.
I live with my brother and with my mom (although she is never at home because she spends most of her time at her boyfriends house in Brooklyn)-her boyfriend is not my favorite person in the world either.
So at the beginning of this month my FH and I got our first apartment together. Since FH and I became engaged in May of this year I told her that I would be moving out at the end of the year. Since my brother is trying to take some college classes and works in roofing, he has not been able to contribute much towards the rent.
When FH and I started looking for apts together I spoke with my mom-we discussed our options, whether we should get a smaller apartment just for my brother and we both agreed that she would keep the apartment and pay the rent together with my brother.
I told her that I would help her if she came up short with money but that she needed to make sure that everything was going to be paid on time. She has a full time job, and makes enough to cover everything and she said no problem, just let her know when I was moving out.
FH and I put down the deposit on our apt together at the beginning of November and I gave my mom $500.00 to help her out towards the rent. I also still have to pay for all the bills, utilities at the apt. because she said that she was not going to.
I got a call from the landlord this morning saying that my mom is not answering her phone and he wants to know when he would be receiving the rent for November. I call my mom and she said she doesnt give a s**t and that she never agreed to pay the rent for the apartment. She then went on a rant about FH and how she hates him.
She has not contributed a penny towards anything for the wedding and I have not asked her too, but she doesnt even seem to care about our wedding. She refused to come and visit our new apartment. She even cancelled on me to go dress shopping an hour before the appointment and I ended up going alone.
She has a full time job but expects me to pay for everything. When I tell her that I cant afford something and I have to pay for things for the wedding, she says-oh I dont care. FH is 'forcing you to get married'. This is from out of the blue, since she always loved FH. Since my new apartment does not allow any animals, I cant even have my brother stay with me as he has two dogs.
I'm so stressed out right now. I'm still paying all the utilities at my mom's apartment, I have to pay my own rent, FH and I need to put another payment towards the Hall next month and towards our DJ and I cant deal with her acting like this. FH thinks that we should all sit down together but my mom refuses. I just want to enjoy moving in together and being engaged and my mom is making everything so stressful.
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I live with my brother and with my mom (although she is never at home because she spends most of her time at her boyfriends house in Brooklyn)-her boyfriend is not my favorite person in the world either.
So at the beginning of this month my FH and I got our first apartment together. Since FH and I became engaged in May of this year I told her that I would be moving out at the end of the year. Since my brother is trying to take some college classes and works in roofing, he has not been able to contribute much towards the rent.
When FH and I started looking for apts together I spoke with my mom-we discussed our options, whether we should get a smaller apartment just for my brother and we both agreed that she would keep the apartment and pay the rent together with my brother.
I told her that I would help her if she came up short with money but that she needed to make sure that everything was going to be paid on time. She has a full time job, and makes enough to cover everything and she said no problem, just let her know when I was moving out.
FH and I put down the deposit on our apt together at the beginning of November and I gave my mom $500.00 to help her out towards the rent. I also still have to pay for all the bills, utilities at the apt. because she said that she was not going to.
I got a call from the landlord this morning saying that my mom is not answering her phone and he wants to know when he would be receiving the rent for November. I call my mom and she said she doesnt give a s**t and that she never agreed to pay the rent for the apartment. She then went on a rant about FH and how she hates him.
She has not contributed a penny towards anything for the wedding and I have not asked her too, but she doesnt even seem to care about our wedding. She refused to come and visit our new apartment. She even cancelled on me to go dress shopping an hour before the appointment and I ended up going alone.
She has a full time job but expects me to pay for everything. When I tell her that I cant afford something and I have to pay for things for the wedding, she says-oh I dont care. FH is 'forcing you to get married'. This is from out of the blue, since she always loved FH. Since my new apartment does not allow any animals, I cant even have my brother stay with me as he has two dogs.
I'm so stressed out right now. I'm still paying all the utilities at my mom's apartment, I have to pay my own rent, FH and I need to put another payment towards the Hall next month and towards our DJ and I cant deal with her acting like this. FH thinks that we should all sit down together but my mom refuses. I just want to enjoy moving in together and being engaged and my mom is making everything so stressful.
