Mom/FMIL vent

I am so frustrated right now I just need to vent before my head explodes.

Since my MOH (sister) is OOT one of my bridesmaids has been helping to organize my shower. I had sent her a list of names to invite a few weeks ago. Today she wrote to say that my mom and FMIL added some names, and she wanted to make sure they were all invited to the wedding before she sent out shower invites. Now, I specifically didn't include some women on the wedding invite list - to me a bridal shower is about the bride and should be more personal (as opposed to the wedding where your parents invite their friends and coworkers who you may or may not know).

So my FMIL added 4 women (2 I've met once, 2 I haven't met at all) and my mom adds 3. Meanwhile, I had specifically told my mom as a heads up that I wasn't putting them on the list because they are her friends and I wanted the shower to be more personal.

ARGH. I'm so pi$$ed right now.

Hopefully they can't come. And if they do, they'd better bring good gifts.

I never get why people invite random people to a shower. A wedding..yeah I guess so if they're friends of the parents but a shower? Really?

Yeah I'd be annoyed too.

and honestly I wouldn't want to go to a shower for someone I didn't know. It seems like they're just asking for a gift.

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Posted by allornil

I never get why people invite random people to a shower. A wedding..yeah I guess so if they're friends of the parents but a shower? Really?

Yeah I'd be annoyed too.

and honestly I wouldn't want to go to a shower for someone I didn't know. It seems like they're just asking for a gift.

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I agree. I feel like showers are tourture unless you know a lot of people, involved or really care about the bride

FMIL invited several of her friends to the shower. It was kinda nice to get to meet them prior to the wedding, plus since FH's family is so small, it gave her people to sit and chat with. I also have to say, considering they never met me, I was blown away by their kindness and generosity towards me.
I did not know in advance they would be invited to the shower, just to the wedding, if I did, I may have felt how you did.
My shower was small- about 35 people at someones house.
Even with a small shower, the day is such a whirlwind, you are probably not even gonna notice the few extra people.