momzila... in the making?
My mom is financing my wedding so i have not been very pushy or picky about a lot of things because of this. For the most part we have been fair on both sides. the only thing that has been getting dicy is the guest list and invitations...
the guest list started very small about 50 people, but the hall we booked needed 100 so we beefed up the list, now we are at about 140. My mom through this process of adding people started to complain about cost and that we had to keep it reasonable and this and that. FI's side has about 20 people, our combined friends is about 25 people (32 counting the bridal party) and all of the rest are people my mom wanted to invite. She was complaining the whole time that there were her work friends that she wanted to invite but didnt want the list any bigger.... this was back in October/ november. Fast forward to now. I am having my invitations printed up now so we were looking over the guest list, and over the past several months there are a few people FI and I have grown closer to and would like to invite and I havent talked to her yet, because she is still complaining about not inviting her school friends.
When it came to the invitations I had them all worked out and spaced, and wordered and she descides she has to have the Mrs put in front of her name (no big deal) and she was insisting that we add Son of Mr. ___ after my FI's name. but the format of the invite doesnt look right like that. But she wouldnt drop the the issue so I did and gave in.
Now the other day i get an email from her asking me to make mailing lables for the responce envelopes that are addressed to her! I emailed her back asking if there was some communication i missed, I was verifiying that it was still my wedding! Her responce was that since she is hosting it they would 'traditionally' be sent to her.
Is there any way that i can stop this before it starts to snow ball? I feel like its the episode of bridezilla where her mother was insisting that it wasnt her wedding but 'our wedding' (The mom and the daughter) I have so much going on I cant deal with this getting worse. any ideas,
the guest list started very small about 50 people, but the hall we booked needed 100 so we beefed up the list, now we are at about 140. My mom through this process of adding people started to complain about cost and that we had to keep it reasonable and this and that. FI's side has about 20 people, our combined friends is about 25 people (32 counting the bridal party) and all of the rest are people my mom wanted to invite. She was complaining the whole time that there were her work friends that she wanted to invite but didnt want the list any bigger.... this was back in October/ november. Fast forward to now. I am having my invitations printed up now so we were looking over the guest list, and over the past several months there are a few people FI and I have grown closer to and would like to invite and I havent talked to her yet, because she is still complaining about not inviting her school friends.
When it came to the invitations I had them all worked out and spaced, and wordered and she descides she has to have the Mrs put in front of her name (no big deal) and she was insisting that we add Son of Mr. ___ after my FI's name. but the format of the invite doesnt look right like that. But she wouldnt drop the the issue so I did and gave in.
Now the other day i get an email from her asking me to make mailing lables for the responce envelopes that are addressed to her! I emailed her back asking if there was some communication i missed, I was verifiying that it was still my wedding! Her responce was that since she is hosting it they would 'traditionally' be sent to her.
Is there any way that i can stop this before it starts to snow ball? I feel like its the episode of bridezilla where her mother was insisting that it wasnt her wedding but 'our wedding' (The mom and the daughter) I have so much going on I cant deal with this getting worse. any ideas,
