***Monday 8/8 QOTD****

Thank you Jackie for making me BOTW! My Avatars always take forever to change...so hopefully it will change eventually.

So here goes my first question. After a conversation last night with my FH and one of his GM I noticed a significant difference in how they felt or thought about their role in a wedding. His friend wanted to be involved in EVERYTHING and not just saying yes or no...and my FH role is to really make the extra money and just said yes or no to most major things. His motto is tell me where and when to show up and what to do.

So......What how active has your FH been in the wedding planning? Does he want to be there for everything or have the outlook just tell me where to be?

My FH is involved in everything........ he's with me at every appointment & he is helping me pick out flowers, menus, etc. I picked the wedding color scheme myself. but he is pretty much into the whole planning process. Only thing he isn't really doing is the invite mailing list. that's all on my shoulders. but you bet your a$$ I am going to make him stuff the envelopes!!!!!!!

We made decisions together... I dont pick up on somethign unless we BOTH agree on it...
But i am mostly 'doing' everythng.. he agrees with what i do/get lol

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Posted by VCanizalez

We made decisions together... I dont pick up on somethign unless we BOTH agree on it...
But i am mostly 'doing' everythng.. he agrees with what i do/get lol

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yea exactly...I picked things out and I got his yes or no if he liked it. lol

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Posted by Jmrosa1

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Posted by VCanizalez

We made decisions together... I dont pick up on somethign unless we BOTH agree on it...
But i am mostly 'doing' everythng.. he agrees with what i do/get lol

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yea exactly...I picked things out and I got his yes or no if he liked it. lol

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Me too! lol

I did more than he did, but since he was in Ithaca and I was in DC, we couldn't always meet up to do things together.

We chose the vendors together except photo

He had more to say about the RH menu and the RD menu, but I did the basic legwork and narrowed things down

You guys have active FH's when it comes to wedding planning??

we have made all the decisions together - we try to go to all appts together, but he can't always make it with work.

he has been so hands on, its been great!

We make decisions together, but it takes forreevvverrrr to get him to sit down and look at something or make an appt... I feel like he was more active when we had months and months to plan, but now that we are heading into crunch time he keeps telling me to relax, it'll get taken care of....

YYYYyyea, I know, I'M the one taking care of it and I'd like to do so NOW! LOL

I think what happened is he was more worried about the bigger ticket items, so once we knew how much we were spending on the major vendors he felt everything was set, and now we just have little things to figure out.

Still trying to figure out how to make him aware that we (I, really) have about 472 'little' things to take care of that he doesn't even realize need to be done, that all take friggin 3 hours each....

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Posted by FDNYwife1029

My FH is involved in everything........ he's with me at every appointment & he is helping me pick out flowers, menus, etc. I picked the wedding color scheme myself. but he is pretty much into the whole planning process. Only thing he isn't really doing is the invite mailing list. that's all on my shoulders. but you bet your a$$ I am going to make him stuff the envelopes!!!!!!!

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My fiance is this!!! ALL THE WAY!!

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Posted by MrsMikeyT

We make decisions together, but it takes forreevvverrrr to get him to sit down and look at something or make an appt... I feel like he was more active when we had months and months to plan, but now that we are heading into crunch time he keeps telling me to relax, it'll get taken care of....

YYYYyyea, I know, I'M the one taking care of it and I'd like to do so NOW! LOL

I think what happened is he was more worried about the bigger ticket items, so once we knew how much we were spending on the major vendors he felt everything was set, and now we just have little things to figure out.

Still trying to figure out how to make him aware that we (I, really) have about 472 'little' things to take care of that he doesn't even realize need to be done, that all take friggin 3 hours each....

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Yea mine was more involved with the big vendors not the little details....so gotta do those solo with my mom. Thank goodness for moms!!

he is involved in the major things but then complains about not being involved in the other things yet says he cant come i cant win lol


He helped me pick all the vendors but i picked all the decor and colors

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Posted by MrsMikeyT

We make decisions together, but it takes forreevvverrrr to get him to sit down and look at something or make an appt... I feel like he was more active when we had months and months to plan, but now that we are heading into crunch time he keeps telling me to relax, it'll get taken care of....

YYYYyyea, I know, I'M the one taking care of it and I'd like to do so NOW! LOL

I think what happened is he was more worried about the bigger ticket items, so once we knew how much we were spending on the major vendors he felt everything was set, and now we just have little things to figure out.

Still trying to figure out how to make him aware that we (I, really) have about 472 'little' things to take care of that he doesn't even realize need to be done, that all take friggin 3 hours each....

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Yea I understand that. I did all the invites with my mom n Sis. He saw me put together two n what that took n was like wow you did that for all of them???? Yes someone needs to do the little stuff. Lol

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Posted by WinterBride2011

mine just wants to show up. I keep running ideas by him and he tells me a wedding is not his dream getting married is.

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BaSically this. After the rh, photog, he has stepped back and just nods or shakes his head lol. He wanted a photobootj but had me make it happen lol. It def Does not bothet me he has a back seat lol

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Posted by WinterBride2011

mine just wants to show up. I keep running ideas by him and he tells me a wedding is not his dream getting married is.

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My FH keeps saying the same thing. What man grows up dreaming of his wedding day? I'm like some do!!

My baby boy has been with me on every single decision- he's been at every single meeting/ shopping trip (except the dress and the make up trial) and he's paying for 90% of our wedding.
He's been super great-
He even spent 4 hours adorning our invites with perfectly placed swarovski crystals!!
I couldn't have asked for better!

Of course he is slacking at getting me a couple of addresses-
and drags his feet a bit when he's tired.

But he's GREAT!!!!

And when he has strong opinions towards things- I usually let him have his way!