'morning ladies...wedding almost off

grrulz Posted: Oct 02, 2008 09:03 AM

'morning ladies...wedding almost off

After being rejected by both teaching fellows and teach for america....and crying myself to sleep last night...I could not help but to think and think about FH's future and mine... I decided to call him and I was trying to call off our wedding because I realized that we do need 2 incomes even though FH is well off at his job I wouldn't want to just go to school and not work. I wast telling him how I want him to follow his dreams like I know he wants a house and because of this we might not be able I love him very much I was willing to let go of him as I tried to mentioned that I was trying to call of our wedding I think he got the hint and immediately said to me ' BABY are you trying to call off our wedding' my heart started beating faster and faster and I just couldn't go on with this. He was soo sweet and tried to comfort me saying that we are in this together and how we will make it work. He told me he doesn't mind that I got to grad school and have a part time job in the mean time (the plan was that I was supposed to be have a full time teaching job) I guess some things are not meant to be but last night after hearing FH being so supportive and telling me beautiful things I just can't wait to marry that man and I feel lucky that I have someone like him by my side so the plan is...Go to grad school for my education masters and work with my sociology degree in the meantime. I feel kind of better about this still a bit down but FH just gave me back my confidence. Just thought I'd shared this with you ladies. If you ever think that a problem like mine or any other is a reason to run off a relationship NO TRUE...there are always ways to work it out....PLEASE take my advice before doing something you might regret...this is all ladies Have a great day.

T E R I Posted: Oct 02, 2008 09:07 AM

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Gloria, i'm soo happy to hear that your FH is supportive of you, that is great!!!!! You have a great supportive team backing you and you will do great in what you decide to do!!!!!

stinenandy2010 Posted: Oct 02, 2008 09:12 AM

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Your Fh sounds like a great catch! You can totally still have the wedding of your dreams, just have to watch the budget. There are girls on here (check out the review board) who have had weddings for $10k!!!! Good Luck gloria!

christine2010 Posted: Oct 02, 2008 09:13 AM

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just hang in there it will all work out in the end. i am very nervous about being able to find a job after graduating. & since we decided to have the wedding in april i wont even be at the job for a year prior to getting married. but i realized last night that i don't need a house right away. as long as i don't have to live in a card board box for the first couple of years everything should be good.

Opera_Ghost Posted: Oct 02, 2008 09:13 AM

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That sounds so similar to what happened on the phone with FH & I a few nights ago.
Everything will work out

Yankees2323 Posted: Oct 02, 2008 09:27 AM

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awwww babessss i just almost cried!! i dont really know u guys too well and dont even know him lol but u are the cutest couple and from all the pix n everything i hear he is madly in love with u and u are with him.... you better not let go of him!!! trust me there is always a way for things to happen.... as weird as it sounds i never thought id be doing what i do now work wise and having a nice apartent with georgous furniture and a nice big bed lol.... i always thought i would have a tiny thing and as much as i love expensive things i would be having everything cheap... but when im with FH i feel like everything is possible and he makes things happen for us... bak in december i told him i couldnt take my mom anymore and had to move out he offered to pay for an apt for me and then was like why dont we just get our own place... i was like ok and didnt think it would happen but 1mnth later it did!!

everything will work out for you!! and yea it sux u didnt get accepted into those programs but your in grad school and once u finish ull def be able to get a good job and everything will fall into place

amandah75 Posted: Oct 02, 2008 09:32 AM

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That was just wonderful of him. Very happy that what could have been a horrible experience was transformed into a wonderful experience.

JenBill61210 Posted: Oct 02, 2008 09:38 AM

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thats so great that he supports you!! And don't worry, things will work out fine w/ you and your career.

grrulz Posted: Oct 02, 2008 09:54 AM

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thank you ladies!! for all your beautiful words and support!!!

Its2Snappy Posted: Oct 02, 2008 10:21 AM

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Please remember that the economy is incredibly tough right now, and not having a full time job is NO reflection on your worth or your future. I did my BA and MA in five years while working two part time jobs and keeping my own apartment. It was VERY difficult. Life is just crazy sometimes, but remembering that you have a great man in your life AND that you are worth it helps alot. Now, what you can do to get you 'IN' in teaching is to substitute first or work for a private company. What is your degree in? Which area of education?

grrulz Posted: Oct 02, 2008 10:23 AM

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Posted by Its2Snappy

Please remember that the economy is incredibly tough right now, and not having a full time job is NO reflection on your worth or your future. I did my BA and MA in five years while working two part time jobs and keeping my own apartment. It was VERY difficult. Life is just crazy sometimes, but remembering that you have a great man in your life AND that you are worth it helps alot. Now, what you can do to get you 'IN' in teaching is to substitute first or work for a private company. What is your degree in? Which area of education?

I am a soc major!! and I'm almost done so i can't just double major and stuff...i'm done in spring 09

FutureMrs.M Posted: Oct 02, 2008 10:31 AM

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that is soo great how much he is supporting you. thanks for sharing this story cuz I know I have been there before as well. Plus it is if you get a good part-time job it is totally do able to save for the wedding

RitasEngaged Posted: Oct 02, 2008 11:12 AM

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Wow what a great guy you have!! DOn't call off the wedding - everything will work out don't worry!! And as long as you have his support that is all that matters!