Mother-Daughter or Brother-Sister Dance?? Opinions - repeat from 09' brd

Hi Ladies, so at the risk of being too personal I really need your HONEST opinions!!! My parents separated when I was 2 and while my brother's & I spent our early childhood weekends w/my dad, once he realized my mom & him were never going to reconcile he stopped paying child support and taking us anywhere on the weekends. Not wanting us to stay inside allday every weekend my mom stopped making us go over and our relationship progressively deteriorated until he moved to FL (against our begging him not too when I was 16). As an adult I've made the effort to be closer to him so my dad is coming to the wedding, will walk me down the aisle and we'll do the father/daughter dance. So here's where I need advice. I'm INCREDIBLY close w/both my mom and eldest brother (who's also the bestman to my FH). My mom is my bestfriend. She's so funny and amazing, even my FH loves her. The younger of the two older brothers has estranged himself from our family b/c his wife doesn't like us (long very sad story). I'd LOVE to have a mother-daughter dance, but my mom & I are traditionalists and feel that might look weird (you know, two women in dresses dancing together?). I would also love to maybe have a dance w/my eldest brother who really was more of a father to me growing up than my own father ever was, and even now as adults we're super close. This was the kind of brother who was late to school everyday at 6 b/c he'd beg my mom to feed me everymorning & get up early to play w/me everyday; would always bring me everywhere; stayed by my bedside everyday when I was sick in the hospital as a child; and even as an adult when I had heart surgery took off of work to make sure he was there (when my father didn't even call). SO...understandably, I'd like to have a meaningful dance at my wedding with at least ONE person I feel was (and still is) a real parent to me w/out looking too odd. Would it be wrong to have either a Mother/Daughter dance and/or a Brother/Sister dance? I can think of 100 songs who's lyrics resonate for what they've both meant to me (and my FH). What would you do if you had a fairly traditional family? Is one more appropriate than the other? Please help!! Don't worry about offending me. I'll appreciate honest opinions!!

if you are concerned with the way the mother daughter dance look, you can mke a speech to ur mother from u and FH. the way it sounds, ur brother is like the most important person in ur life, i def think you should dance with him if ur asking for my honest opinion good luk!! l hope it all works out!

Yeah, maybe having my brother cut in might be good...I don't want to take up too much time and have my FH's family saying 'is she gonna dance w/EVERY member of her family?' LOL But it's hard b/c I'm so close to both of them. I also want to dance w/my dad. He wasn't the father I needed, but I know he loves me (if that makes any sense). As my mom puts it 'he's a bad father, but not a bad man', so I don't want to make him feel bad either, you know?