Mother of the Bride Question...

kimmylyn Posted: Dec 09, 2003 06:25 PM

Mother of the Bride Question...

I have an etiquette question in regards to my Mom's dress. She found a black dress that she loves, and I told her that I don't care what she wears to my wedding as long as she is comfortable. That she is there for me, not for what color dress she has on. (She is walking me down the isle).

However, my cousins and Aunts are giving her a problem saying that it is wrong to wear black to my wedding.

Does it really matter? I appreciate your opinion!!!

Thanks..

palebride Posted: Dec 09, 2003 06:43 PM

Re: Mother of the Bride Question...

i think it's a personal preference - there are rules that used to be in place that are no longer around - such as the MOB not wearing black to the wedding
but if you like it and she likes it - go for it!

JZNCK Posted: Dec 09, 2003 06:52 PM

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Things have changed.. this is the 2004 (almost).. I think it is personal preferences.. I don't think people will say anything and if they do.. OH WELL, IT'S YOUR WEDDING>.

bizzybridesmom Posted: Dec 09, 2003 07:10 PM

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It the 'old' days it was frowned upon for any guest to wear black to a wedding. It was thought that black was reserved for sad occasions, not joyous ones like a wedding. Well, times have changed. Your mom should were whatever you & she are happy with her wearing. Tell you cousins & aunts to butt out.

sp04 Posted: Dec 09, 2003 07:14 PM

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I think black is very nice and elegant and as we all know the most flattering for may women. My bridesmaids dresses are black and they and I couldn't be more excited. It is the easiest color to go with to.. You don't have to worry about dying shoes and any flower arrangement will go well with it. I think if your mother feels comfortable in black then she should definitely wear it...

Moehick Posted: Dec 09, 2003 07:28 PM

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As long as she loves the dress she wil look great. Black is no longer Taboo!

ThongLori Posted: Dec 09, 2003 07:57 PM

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It is wrong to steal.
It is wrong to do drugs.
It is wrong to cheat.
It is wrong to lie.
It is NOT wrong for your mom to wear black if she wants to!!!

man, this old school wedding etiquette needs some serious updates...

luvsun27 Posted: Dec 09, 2003 08:15 PM

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My mom is wearing black...so who cares if it's wrong!

Boop2704 Posted: Dec 09, 2003 08:17 PM

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My mom is wearing black!! She looks great in her dress and neither us could care less what anybody else thinks or has to say about it. She should be comfortable. If you like the dress she picked and she does, I don't see a problem. It is your wedding not your aunts or cousins. What you say goes!!

kimmylyn Posted: Dec 09, 2003 09:13 PM

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Thanks for the feedback everyone.. My Mom appreciates too..

July2004Bride Posted: Dec 09, 2003 09:15 PM

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I think the Mother of the Bride can wear ANY COLOR she wants!!!

Smolokoff Posted: Dec 09, 2003 09:54 PM

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That's old thinking. Black is always appropriate now, as long as it isn't 'funeral' black. Dressy and pretty can not go wrong. My mom and FMIL are both wearing black. Then again my BM's are wearing B&W dresses. LOL.

babybride Posted: Dec 10, 2003 08:05 AM

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I think it is a matter of personal preference. I know my mom saw a black dress, but she said I can't wear that it is black. But she is old fashioned. I have been to PLENTY of weddings where the MOB and MOG have worn black. It is 2004!! (almost)

AliKing Posted: Dec 10, 2003 08:06 AM

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No I think black is very classy! My mother wore black to my wedding also.

MSCJLK Posted: Dec 10, 2003 08:14 AM

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My MIL wore black.. if she in confoprtable then thats what should matter....

chris'mrs Posted: Dec 10, 2003 08:30 AM

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As all the girls before me have said.....she can wear whatever she wants. My mother wore black to my sisters wedding a few years ago and she is wearing black again to our wedding. There are always going to be people who feel the need to make a comment. I go grief for picking red for my BM's. You can't please all of the people all of the time. It is your day.......enjoy it!

firegal Posted: Dec 10, 2003 08:56 AM

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Black, although being a past wedding taboo is actually now the 'new thing' to wear. Some people even have black and white weddings now. Both my mother and my fmil are wearing black to our wedding and my aunt is wearing black and white. Black is elegant and formal and your mom will look beautiful!!!

dawnie Posted: Dec 10, 2003 08:58 AM

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My mother wore black and looked gorgeous. I think things are different these days. I was happy she wore a dress that she felt comfortable in and flattered her.