Mother Vent (from Groom)

Okay so my mom is this snotty/psycho biotch (trust me, if you knew her and what she's done to our life you would agree) and decided to get married LITERALLY two weeks before our wedding after I had been engaged for a year 1/2 and planning the wedding for this DAY for 9 months.

Instead of calling ME, her first son, to ask for any wedding info or help she decided to plan her own wedding which she didn't even invite my fiance to!!! (BTW, she got engaged this past December).

I feel like an idiot b/c my fiance said to not invite her to my wedding after all shes done to her but stupid me, I did anyways. Fiance cannot stand her and didn't want to put her on the invite either, but you know what... she did... out of courtesy for me.

Plus she's been talking all this crap to my fiance the whole time and saying how our marriage will not last, and she is not good for me, etc.. I could care less if she went or not and she finally realized that.

The messed up part is this... she FINALLY decided that she's coming to our wedding after all this crap. But I don't want her there or to ruin this day for me or my fiance.

Oh yeah, and I forgot to add. She had her wedding already. White wedding gown, tiara, veil, the whole works - even though this is her 3rd time getting married lol... who does that? is this normal ?

I think that your concerns are valid...only you would know to what lengths your mother would go to.

As far as your mother telling your FW that it won't last....based on what you told us...she is the last person who is authorized to make that assumption....and I wouldn't take such comments to heart.

I would speak with the BM, the Matre'D and the DJ...let them know that you are concerned your mother might say or do something to ruin the day....Im sure that they will all cut her off at the pass....(we had to do this with a drunk cousin at my sister's wedding)


Good luck with everytihng...I'm sure that you and your FW will have a beautiful day.

Wow, man, I am so sorry.
Whatever though, Let her say what she wants to say. Just brush it off your shoulder. I know it's your Mom and it hurts and bothers you, but like you said.....this is something you are used to. It's 'typical' of her. I am sure you are numb to a lot of things.
It's your day too not just the Brides. And no one can take that away from the both of you. You know you are marrying for the right reasons and to the right person. BRUSH IT OFF your shoulder!!!
It's your life. And obvioulsy she has had no problems living hers.
I would never say anything bad about mama dukes, she is your mom and besides I don't even know her. Be as happy as you can be for her. Hopefully she can do the same in return.

However, be prepared for the worst but hope for the best!!!
Good luck boss!!!
edited for spelling