MUST VENT

holla back yo - no doubt

just fuming over here!!

Oy. Those girls were on the attack. It's really hard to have an intelligent debate over message boards like this, because people can take a chunk of what you said, ignore the context, and attack you for it, and you're going, 'that's not what I said...' and they're like, 'but let me quote it for you! Yes you did!'

Stay here with us on the 08 boards. It's nice and warm and cozy in here.

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Posted by DavaDay

Oy. Those girls were on the attack. It's really hard to have an intelligent debate over message boards like this, because people can take a chunk of what you said, ignore the context, and attack you for it, and you're going, 'that's not what I said...' and they're like, 'but let me quote it for you! Yes you did!'

Stay here with us on the 08 boards. It's nice and warm and cozy in here.

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I couldn't agree more!

Thanks for understanding - meanwhile, im like arguing with people that can't even spell! what was i thinking???

one girl wrote about the 'Blue wall of SILENTS' Now THAT is scary!!!!

I wanted to reply
***Silence, - but i figured I'd better not - LOL

I think you defended your POV very well! But yeah, stay here with us... I'm about to have some ice cream.... the 2008 board is for ice cream & raunch, not arguing!

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Posted by beeinsilly

Thanks for understanding - meanwhile, im like arguing with people that can't even spell! what was i thinking???

one girl wrote about the 'Blue wall of SILENTS' Now THAT is scary!!!!

I wanted to reply
***Silence, - but i figured I'd better not - LOL

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don't feel bad, cause i thought the SAME THING!

you were right on and i totallyl understand your POV 100%! some ppl on there were just a little short-sighted.

thanks!

my '08 girls are the best!

im going to have ice cream and watch the bachelor finale!!!

Hey dont worry about it! I agree with the girls...stay in the 08 boards! I hesitate all the time before posting just because Im scared of offending people, in all reality, this is what these forums are for. Of course everyone has different views about the groom being shot, thats only natural no one is either right or wrong...so what exactly are people arguing with you for? Its so silllllyyyyy

they were arguing about race but all i said was that sharpton was all over this and even before they said 3 out of the 5 cops were minorities and that HE is the one that always makes race an issue, meanwhile, MANY MANY NYPD officers are not white!!

that was ALL i was saying

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

I just read that thread...and i can't believe how much drama is in the BHB boards..thats why i rarely go there..they had no right to attack you

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thanks! i was just getting so annoyed because people think things or say it to each other, but when someone (which happened to be me this time) actually verbalizes what they already know, they were all outraged! give me a break!

then i said how they have an 'Official african american bride thread' but that we would be ostrasized if we had a 'White Bride Thread' - sorry but its the truth and believe me, I am not racist at all!!

Ostracized... you have a point. I didn't get a chance to read the thread about the groom who was killed, but I figured I'd share my point of view concerning your last comment since I'm an African American bride-to-be.

Here it is: Since I've joined LIW, I've found SO much wedding related information... from halls and flowers to DIYs and makeup. However, being that my parents are from Panama and that I have darker skin, I found the African American Brides AND the Latin American Brides Threads super helpful. It's not about RACE; and that is how I think you're perceiving it.

On those threads, I was able to retrieve information related to Caribbean and Hispanic traditions, foods, etc. The information was WAY easier to find that way. For example, I wanted to find out about makeup artists who are used to working with darker skin tones. It was important for me to find someone experienced. I easily found it on the AAB thread. Another example: traditionally, fruit cake is served with wedding cake in my family. I EASILY found helpful info on the AAB thread related to this. I'm sure that future AAB's will appreciate the simplicity of searching that one thread for all of their unique issues like makeup, music, food, etc. It just makes life easier. All brides are welcome to use the thread for information.

I have the same respect the Chinese Brides thread, Jewish, Greek, Italian, etc. that exist on here. It's all about tradition and easy access to information.

Also, keep in mind that there are very few people who are solely 'African American'. Usually, we have Caribbean backgrounds. Just as 'Caucasian Americans' usually are more that just that. Panamanian, Trinidadian; Italian, Irish for example. Remember that those quoted terms are only labels and were created for classification purposes. That's why the thread is titled African American Brides...

Sure, there could be a 'White Brides Thread' as you suggested it be called... but the term would apply to the majority of LIW brides in some way.

African American brides are a minority here... but perhaps the thread should be titled 'African American/Caribbean Brides'?

I hope this helps a bit and that you understand where I'm coming from. Forgive me if I repeated and dragged but it's 5am, and after studying all night, I'm a lil' loopy!

I also hope that I didnt offend anyone... just trying to be as explicative as possible.

And yes, I agree, the '08 boards are always warm and cozy! That's why I'm always here

With that said, I'm off to catch some

I would rather not even discuss it anymore - I am glad you were able to get the help and advice you were looking for - but that was not really my point

All of the other 'cultures' you listed do not refer to color, and that is the difference

You can be any color, or from any country and be Jewish. I am Puerto Rican and Jewish. Well, Puerto Rican and Ukranian; because Jewish is a religion, not a nationality. The other threads mention countries, so yes, perhaps a Carribean thread would be more appropriate.

JMO
I was just upset because i am the furtherst person from being racist and it was just getting WAY blown out of proportion.

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Posted by beeinsilly

Thanks for understanding - meanwhile, im like arguing with people that can't even spell! what was i thinking???

one girl wrote about the 'Blue wall of SILENTS' Now THAT is scary!!!!

I wanted to reply
***Silence, - but i figured I'd better not - LOL

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