my bestman and fh
Last night i was talking to my mom about how i wanted to go away next weekend with my bestfriend dave to this fest that we love to go to. my mom said oh .. well you need to seperate yourself a bit from him even though he is your 'man or honor' because (fh) may think this should stop. I told her and i have told my fh that my friend dave is more important to me then all most everything. I love him and fh knows this. Its a diff. type of love then what i have with fh but its there. My mom thinks this is dangerous. I have know dave for over 10 years and i figured if things were going to happen it would of happened and i told fh this a long time ago.
fh is fine with me hanging out with him but now TO THE POINT he got a bit upset when i told him about possibly going away next weekend. I invited him initially and he goes i dn't wnat to go.. hten he says go yourself. so i said i might meet dave down there for one night and he seemed not so happy. i am not sure because it may be because of the money that is involved or its because i will be with dave. i realize i am in debt right now and really shouldn't go away but a part of me wants to go to spend the time with dave and to have some fun and blow some steam of after graduating and getting a new job. its a ton of bands who I LOVE and some i know plus i get to see some friends that don't live in NY so its a really cool event.
I WANTED TO ADD: Just realized i should state this part. I have gone away with dave a number of times before being engaged. once after. I realize this is an odd thing for most people but as i said fh never had a problem with this before.
dave and i hang out at least once a week, usually fh joins but sometimes its just me and dave. never had issues before normally fh says go do something dave because i want to sleep. See dave and i do the things together that fh won''t do with me. like go biking, go to a show, go to an art show, etc. I realize this sounds dangerous in most cases but i have done this with dave for 10 years with var. bf's which fh knows. Hell fh and i have been together for six years and dave has been involved also just not as much until now because he moved back down from upstate.
I am going to bring it up over dinner tonight and see if anything i should be concerned about. But why would anyone mind after six years of being together over hanging out with my bestfriend? what do you girls think?
fh is fine with me hanging out with him but now TO THE POINT he got a bit upset when i told him about possibly going away next weekend. I invited him initially and he goes i dn't wnat to go.. hten he says go yourself. so i said i might meet dave down there for one night and he seemed not so happy. i am not sure because it may be because of the money that is involved or its because i will be with dave. i realize i am in debt right now and really shouldn't go away but a part of me wants to go to spend the time with dave and to have some fun and blow some steam of after graduating and getting a new job. its a ton of bands who I LOVE and some i know plus i get to see some friends that don't live in NY so its a really cool event.
I WANTED TO ADD: Just realized i should state this part. I have gone away with dave a number of times before being engaged. once after. I realize this is an odd thing for most people but as i said fh never had a problem with this before.
dave and i hang out at least once a week, usually fh joins but sometimes its just me and dave. never had issues before normally fh says go do something dave because i want to sleep. See dave and i do the things together that fh won''t do with me. like go biking, go to a show, go to an art show, etc. I realize this sounds dangerous in most cases but i have done this with dave for 10 years with var. bf's which fh knows. Hell fh and i have been together for six years and dave has been involved also just not as much until now because he moved back down from upstate.
I am going to bring it up over dinner tonight and see if anything i should be concerned about. But why would anyone mind after six years of being together over hanging out with my bestfriend? what do you girls think?
