my bms are making me crazy....help!

OK so this is going to be a total rant because my bms are making me nuts!!! Since I asked her to be in the wedding one of my bms barely talks to me and says its bc shes too busy. I recently msged them about there dresses and she is the only one who has yet to answer me after SEVERAL attempts. Then today my other bm msg me and all the other bms saying 'I hope no one ordered their dresses yet bc i found them for cheaper. Now, dont you think she should have gone to be first and their not cheaper bc she wasnt including the sash or tax and also found it in nyc when everyone but her (she lives in the city) lives in suffolk. when i said something to her she told me shes just trying to save money and i told her the city is inconvient for ppl and her response was its convient for me. Is it just me or is she being selfish. Then she says to me 'well just keep in mind whenever theres a buncha ppl and your the only one making a decision theres going to be ppl who have their own ideas and if you want it your way there might be consequences (like not having ppl in ur wedding who say they cant afford it) i dont mean to get you upset by that
but if you understand that and are ok with it, hey go with ur gut mb i just wont pay my credit card bills. Am I crazy for being mad at them right now????

you have to talk to her now, before it gets out of control. I agree, the fabric needs to be cut from the same roll so that you don't see a difference in the material.

i understand she's trying to 'help' but she really should have come to you and said 'hey listen, i think i found the dress for cheaper, did you want to look into this place?'

it's not her place to be making decisions for your wedding.

also the other girls are completely right- all the dresses need to be ordered at the same time from the same place so they're all from the same dye lot.

why are people so difficult?

Reading your post made me want to scream!!!!!! Because I know how you feel!!!!! It's frustrating when you think you're trying to make all your girls happy, but yet one spoiled apple in the bunch has to try to do what she finds is most convenient for her. In all reality, if she doesn't like it, she doesn't need to be in your bridal party...I know that sounds Bridezilla-ish, but it is your wedding!!! When it's her turn to get married, you'll do what she wants, now it's her turn to listen to you!!!

i agree! i have 2 ex-bridesmaids now actually!

its so upsetting to see the 'closest' ppl to you not give a sh!t. I actually got upset about it last night, but then I realized its not about any of them. i'm marrying the man of my dreams, not a bridesmaid. so if they aren't up to being in my bp, then so be it. they can come as a guest...or not at all if thats how they want to play it