my cousin/bridesmaid just miscarried

Original post by Alexandra17

Jul 01, 2009 10:03 PM

and I had no idea she was even pregnant! She doens't want anyone to know and I just found out ...two weeks later..I'm so sad for her but don't want to call her and be like oh, hey, your mom has a mouth..she would yell so much at my aunt...ugh I am so depressed...

JoanneAndJustin Posted: Jul 03, 2009 06:31 AM

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That's sad, I'm so sorry.

lilpiggy742 Posted: Jul 03, 2009 08:53 AM

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i went through a miscarriage 2 years ago and the best thing for me was having someone to talk to when i got upset. So if she needs an ear or just wants a hug just be there..don't offer advice don't say 'it was meant to be' or 'things happen for a reason' just be there for support.

Kimbiz1 Posted: Jul 03, 2009 08:57 AM

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Posted by Raineyday

Thats so sad! I can understand why she hasnt told anyone and she may not want to talk about it, she could be in denial and I wouldnt bring it up. Just be there for her however you can, being there could mean being silent and just listening or providing a distraction for her to take her mind off of things....its a sad time but she will need all the support she can get!

ITA

My BF and BM miscarried a year ago. I flew down to be with her for a week. I had no idea what to say, and I'm usually NEVER at a loss for words. I told her that and she said, just you being here is all I need. She unfortunately had another miscarriage again this year, right after our Eparty. I couldn't take time off of work and we actually never even spoke about it. She will be around this weekend and if she wants to talk, I'll listen. It's all I can do.

Good luck

MrsC2010 Posted: Jul 03, 2009 09:25 AM

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i am so sorry I can't even imagine

doreen82 Posted: Jul 03, 2009 09:28 AM

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aww...im so sorry..

Alexandra17 Posted: Jul 03, 2009 09:39 AM

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Thanks girls...I haven't mentioned that I know..she is all I can think about because I want to run into the city and throw my arms around her and hug her but that isn't her style..but really..being able to at least tell you girls and tell you stuff helps..