FH and I picked up our BBQ today and we stopped by my parent's house on the way to drop it off at our house. FH and I have been doing renovations on the house since we closed in July, so we don't live there yet (we both live home). FH asked my dad if he wanted to take a ride to see the changes we've made and he said 'No, I don't want to go'. I asked him and my mom begged him to go, but he refused. I came home and asked my dad why he didn't want to see our house and he walked away. So I turned to my mom...who is, at this point crying and I ask her what is going on but she says 'nothing'. I asked her 'is dad sad because I'm getting married and moving out' and she says 'yes'. I didn't even know what to do!!! I feel so sad about moving out too, but also so excited at the same time. I have so many mixed emotions. Anyone else feel this way too???
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yes i do too. when i am @ our apartment i love it there - but when i am home i love it there too and cant believe that era of my life will soon be over. (i live between the 2 right now) so on one hand i am excited to start my new life but on the other hand i am sad to let the old one go.
dads are funny - story was my dad was home getting drunk the day of my shower (my dad almost never drinks). my mom said he couldnt believe his youngest daughter was getting married. i just smiled and laughed.
i am sure your dad is happy for you and your FH - and he is gaining a son. its just a lot for some people to handle and maybe today was just a bad day. dont let it make you sad - let yourself realize that your whole family is going through changes - not just you.
feel better
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Aww I think that is sweet... You know he will come around and be over all the time.. He just needs to get use to all of this. He is happy for you!
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My dad is being the same way. He offered to build onto our house so FH and I live there together. He is just sad about losing his little girl-he doesn't mean any harm.
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That is sad and sweet. Your dad feels like he's loosing his little girl. I know you feel bad, but it is a process of life to leave the nest and he will get over it .
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ME, I DO! I have been kind of depressed and crying about this lately. I am an only child and i am moving an hour away from my parents.
kittythestray
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Awww! That's sad, but sweet, too! I don't have that kind of relationship with my Dad, so it seems that much sweeter to me!
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Posted by mtdr1106
yes I do too. When I am @ our apartment I love it there - but when I am home I love it there too and cant believe that era of my life will soon be over. (I live between the 2 right now) SO on one hand I am excited to start my new life but on the other hand I am sad to let the old one go.
I have been feeling like this also Our co-op is being renovated but things are starting to come together, SO we stayed there over the weekend. When I am there I love it, but I miss my dog!! and of course my family too! Plus my best friend lives across the street from me (at my parents house), we have been inseparable since the age of three, although our apartment is only like a 5 minute drive, it still hurts and it is sad to leave.
I always try to remember that this is part of life, our parents did, and their parents did it, and SO one. Now it is our turn
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when i was moving my clothes the week b4 the wedding my father was there n said to me 'ohh jeanine don't go' . i lost it-my mother started to cry n so did i
in ways i DO miss my home-cuz its MY house-but in other ways i dont..my mother has always been an overprotective mother-and my father has always called her crazy
but it seems to me he misses me the most now....aww im getting all teary eyed lol
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Me too....we're doing some work in my room right now so it will look good in pictures, and while we're doing this my brother keeps planning things for it (since it will be his room on Monday ). It is so weird....sometimes I just sit in there and cry, but at the same time I am so excited to be moving out and getting married!!
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Aw, your Dad is a big sweety, he'll come around. It's just a burst of emotions for him right now too. Don't you worry about a thing!!!
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I do
Mitabtrfly
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I think you should all just hug your dads...they are losing their babies...that must be so hard. I wish my father was here.....
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hi krista, that is so sad, you should take your dad out to lunch or something. THis is a HUGE change for him, and a difficult one . He is happy for you , just give him some time...
christine
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It's more of a reality that his little girl is all grown up. My father, I'm sure, will be the same way!
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Yes, absolutely!!! I am moving away from my family and my dog to England ii 3 days and although i am very excited to start my life with my husband (and of course travel europe) I am completely devestated!1
