My DH is the bestman in a wedding and needs your help/opinion

mushsgrl Posted: Jan 29, 2006 03:28 PM

My DH is the bestman in a wedding and needs your help/opinion

we are both in the bridal party, but he is the bestman. the groom is his best friend. Is it ok for him to just write a toast to the groom about all the times they've had together? Would you get offened as the bride if the toast did not include you? TIA

jeanla4c Posted: Jan 29, 2006 03:38 PM

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I think he at least has to mention the bride and their future life together. I think I would be a little offended if he left that out.

mushsgrl Posted: Jan 29, 2006 03:40 PM

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Thats what i told him, he just didnt know if he HAD to talk about times we all hung out.

jeanla4c Posted: Jan 29, 2006 03:42 PM

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Posted by mushsgrl

Thats what i told him, he just didnt know if he HAD to talk about times we all hung out.

I wouldn't think so.... think you have him on the right track GL!

Ronkonkomonga Posted: Jan 29, 2006 05:24 PM

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Posted by jeanla4c

I think he at least has to mention the bride and their future life together. I think I would be a little offended if he left that out.

I agree - I dont know if I'd be offended... but it may look a little weird to the guests if he didn't congratulate the both of them.

Happybride2005 Posted: Jan 29, 2006 05:37 PM

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he could just say, bride, i hope you make groom very happy

Blu-ize Posted: Jan 30, 2006 01:09 PM

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I've been to weddings where the BM made a toast and didn't mention the bride at all. (that was horrendous) If he doesn't know the bride well then I suggest keeping it short and sweet. It's not a roast for the groom, it's a toast to their new life.

JanuaryBride06 Posted: Jan 30, 2006 01:26 PM

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I was annoyed that the BM barely spoke about me in his speech - and he was the first member of the family that I got to know.

Summer05 Posted: Jan 30, 2006 01:55 PM

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Posted by Blu-ize
If he doesn't know the bride well then I suggest keeping it short and sweet. It's not a roast for the groom, it's a toast to their new life.

I agree!

Beth1210 Posted: Jan 30, 2006 03:19 PM

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our BM started out by telling a story about Jake from when they were little and then worked it in to how we are perfect for each other and all that jazz

I think you have to mention the bride- other wise it would be odd

Preshy7 Posted: Jan 30, 2006 03:40 PM

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i think he should mention her
maybe say that 'when i met jane i knew right away she was meant for john. she is the only one that can tolerate his (insert funny habit here'
etc.

i definitely think she needs to be mentioned- the toast should be to both people

Blu-ize Posted: Jan 30, 2006 04:39 PM

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Oh yeah, when the BM said his speech, he went on and on about growing up with the groom and how much fun they had and the stupid stuff they did..etc..

His last line was something like, he was glad to know the groom and honored to be is BM. He basically toasted the groom. The crowd didn't know if that was the end of the toast or not and nobody did anything. You could here a pin drop.

Then the bride's father got up and spoke for 15 minutes all about his daughter and when he met her husband..

He made it better. I was so embarassed and hurt for the bride though. Clearly, her father was not prepared to make a speech, he was just winging it.

Bella Blu Posted: Jan 30, 2006 04:49 PM

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Posted by Blu-ize

It's not a roast for the groom, it's a toast to their new life.

I agree... if he is the best friend, he must know the bride in some capacity and mention something about her...even if it's to wish them a happy marriage together

hmm8191 Posted: Jan 30, 2006 05:03 PM

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Yes, I would be offended. The toast should at least mention the bride.

SUNSHINE24 Posted: Jan 31, 2006 08:25 AM

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Its ok if the main part of the speech is about him, but he should tie it up with when the bride and the groom met, and how perfect they are together, and wish them luck.

Mrs. Powell Posted: Jan 31, 2006 08:29 AM

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Of course he should mention the bride.

ssdbk Posted: Feb 02, 2006 02:09 AM

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Gotta mention the bride! I am always so touched when they say someting special for the bride.

justshir Posted: Feb 02, 2006 08:42 AM

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gotta mention the bride.

ML110 Posted: Feb 03, 2006 11:54 AM

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DHs BM started out talking about growig up with DH and what a good friends they are... and then talked about when DH 'started talking about this girl he had met', and then went on to talk about a cruise that me, DH ( bf at the time), the best man, and his girlfriend went on right after college and how he knew then that DH and i were perfect for each other. and then he mentioned how quickly i fit in with the group of friends and then said ' now you have teh responsibility to let luke come out and play- and we expect you to come too'
so it was a really nice combination of things... but i definitely think the bride needs to be mentioned. i'm sure your Dh has hung out with his friends future wife a couple of times... he should be able to come up with something to say... good luck!