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My extremely long birth story...finally!! (with added pics)

melissa27 Posted:

My extremely long birth story...finally!! (with added pics)

I know it's been 2 months, but better late than never, right?
If you are pregnant, you may not want to read this.


At 8:00 on Friday morning (April 11—5 days before my due date), I woke up with contractions. My husband (Mike) and I started timing them. They were coming every 5 minutes, and were very regular. I still wasn’t quite sure if this was “it”, so I told him he should go to school and that I’d call him if things started happening. Five hours later, the contractions were getting stronger so I called my doctor, who told me to call the hospital to tell them what was going on. I called and they wanted me to come in. I called my husband at school and told him to get his butt home ASAP. =) When he got home, we quickly packed the rest of what we needed for the hospital stay and drove to the hospital 30 minutes away. When we got there, I was hooked up to a machine to monitor my contractions and checked to see if I was dilated at all. I was fingertip dilated (about one centimeter) and 50% effaced (thinned out). I was a little disappointed...I was in pain and had hoped that the contractions were actually doing something! They decided to send me home, with instructions to return as soon as my contractions got worse or my water broke. They informed me that I was, indeed, in labor. Yahoo!!
I called my parents and Mike’s parents and told them that I’d probably be having the baby sometime that night or the next morning...don’t forget, I live 6 hours away. They decided they’d drive up Saturday morning.
Mike and I got home and tried to relax, even though we were really excited! We took walks, drank some wine (doctor’s orders)...tried everything to speed things along. My contractions we getting more painful, and I got NO sleep that night.
Saturday morning at 9:00 am, Mike and I went to my doctor’s office to get checked. I was still contracting, and it was getting pretty bad. My contractions NEVER stopped coming, they were always very regular, that’s why it wasn’t “false labor.” My doctor checked me and much to my dismay, I was still only about one centimeter dilated. I almost cried...all this pain for what?! She told me to have sex (ha!!), take a walk...basically to keep doing what I was doing and she promised me I’d have the baby by the evening.
Frustrated, Mike and I went home, where our families were arriving from LI, hoping that I had made at least some progress. No such luck. All day, I had to pretend I was okay in front of them, when meanwhile, I was in a lot of pain and just wished they would go back to their hotel and leave me alone. Don’t get me wrong, I was SOOOO happy that they were going to be around for the birth, but it was hard not to lose it in front of them.
Oh, TMI, but I lost my mucous plug at home that evening.
That night was a repeat of the night before...I couldn’t sleep a wink and the pain was getting pretty bad. At that point, the last time I had slept was Thursday! On Sunday morning, Mike had to go into school to take a big exam. By 10:00 am, my contractions were getting pretty unbearable, so I called my mom in her hotel room and told her she needed to take me to the hospital. She quickly drove over and picked me up. My little sister was there (she’s 12) and it was hard to put on a happy face during my contractions, but I did, because I didn’t want to scare her.
At the hospital, I was checked yet again, and this time I was 3 centimeters dilated…finally, I was making some progress! The wanted to keep me there to walk and get in the jacuzzi (to speed things up), so I told my mom to go explore the area and to come back in a few hours. No sense in them waiting around.
At this point, I still hadn’t called Mike, because he was taking a very important exam and I didn’t want him to be distracted! I walked around the birthing center floor by myself for hours, took hot showers….and got checked every 2 hours or so. It was a slow process. I called Mike and he came to the hospital. Our families came, and then went back to their hotel, a little upset that they might not get to see the baby, since they all had to leave Monday morning. Everyone, including the doctors, thought for sure I’d have the baby by that time.
melissa27 Posted:

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By Sunday evening, I was in bad shape. I was extremely sleep deprived (I’d been awake for three days straight) and started having a mini nervous breakdown. The pain was terrible, but I didn’t want to get the epidural until I was at least halfway there (5 cent. dilated) because I knew it could slow down my labor. At 9:00 pm, my doctor decided to give me a shot of morphine to knock me out, so that I’d be able to get some sleep and have the strength to push when the time came. I got the shot, but half an hour later, I was still wide-awake and still felt everything…no pain relief whatsoever. The nurse almost didn’t believe me when I said that it wasn’t working, but she checked me and I was 5 centimeters dilated (active labor). That is why the morphine didn’t work – the pain was overriding the drugs. At 11:00 pm, my doctor called the anesthesiologist and he gave me an epidural….AHHHH!!! It was magnificent while it lasted. My doc broke my water because it hadn’t broken on its own. Mike and I got to sleep for a few hours until I woke up from my contractions once again. I was only able to feel them on one side, but it was almost intolerable. A nurse checked me at 2:30 am and I was 8.5 centimeters dilated...almost there! I was crying and begging them to fix the epi, but they wouldn’t because I was almost complete and they wanted me to feel the urge to push.
At 4:00 am, it was time to push. I was beyond exhaustion at this point, and really figured that God would give me a break and let me push the baby out rather easily. I was wrong! I HATED PUSHING. Everyone told me it would feel good to push…HA! In my opinion, it was worse than just bearing with the contractions. My legs, ribs, and hips were killing me from pushing…it was awful. After two hours of pushing, the doctors said that the baby’s head was stuck under my pubic bone and they needed to use the vacuum extractor or possibly do a c-section. Although Mike and I were terrified, we agreed to try the vacuum. My doctor used it to maneuver the baby’s head out from under the bone. Once she did that, I was able to push my baby out. At 7:40 am, after over three hours of pushing (and 72 hours of labor), Lyndsey Grace was born, weighing 7 lbs, 9 oz and measuring 21 inches long. She had the cord wrapped around her neck, but was screaming her lungs off. I was SOOOO relieved and so happy to be done. The pain stopped almost immediately after she was born. I got a 2nd degree tear so I got stitched up while Mike held Lyndsey. After only 40 minutes, our families were able to come in the room and see us and the baby. They were so happy and we were all crying. They all left after about 2 hours, but I was so glad they got to see us in the hospital.
I have to say, that although I had a VERY VERY VERY difficult labor experience, my recovery was quite easy. Within a few days, I was feeling like myself again. I never had any pain from the tear…in fact, the worst pain I had was just muscle aches from pushing for so long!
I was traumatized for a few weeks after the birth…but now I can look back at everything and realize that it was worth all the pain and suffering. I love my little angel. She is the best thing that has ever happened to us. And I can’t wait to tell her what she put me through!




Claud2001 Posted:

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Melissa, I am sitting here crying my eyes out over your story. That was beautiful! Thank you for sharing your wonderful (and courageous) birth story. God bless you, Mike and Lyndsey!
melissa27 Posted:

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Thanks Claud....
I know you were dying for me to write that story!
michele31 Posted:

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You had some 3 days! I think your story really makes me KNOW that I just don't want a lot of people around me that day (or days) since I don't want to have to pretend around anyone. But I think it was great that you had your brave face on for your little sister! That is very important.
I am also glad to hear that the tear was not painful, as I have heard the epeisodomy (spelled all wrong) typically is!
Claud2001 Posted:

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Yes, I was! I am so glad you finally did...it's very similar to my birth experience, only I was lucky to only be in labor for 22 hrs, not 72 (you poor thing!). I hope the trauma part of the memory will continue to fade, while your love for Lyndsey only continues to grow and grow!
HeatherandNick Posted:

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Melissa- what a great story you wil have to telly our little one someday
chmlengr Posted:

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Melissa

Thanks for sharing your story. It's so beautiful to ehar about a new life being born! IMO, It's good to hear all details. Congrats again!
karen32 Posted:

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i love hearing the birthing stories!!! i'm so sorry that your labor was so long, but i guess it's all worth it in the end!!

alina Posted:

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Oh My, now I am even more scared!!!!

shamma Posted:

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WOW is all I can say
melissa27 Posted:

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I'm so sorry Alina!!!
dawnie Posted:

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I am so sorry that you had such a long labor! Congratulations on your little angel!!!
melissa27 Posted:

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Here is Lyndsey when she first was born...she is only 5 minutes old in these pics!





alina Posted:

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Melissa, don't be sorry for me, I am not there yet!!!

I can't imagine going through something like this and although I have been scared before, now I am scared even worse!!! I have to overcome the birth fear somehow!!!
alina Posted:

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Lindsey is so adorable!!!

melissa27 Posted:

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And here she is on her Christening day (this past Sunday) at 2 months old!



Claud2001 Posted:

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Melissa, she is GORGEOUS!!! Did I mention that Mr. Paul like younger women??

Please, tell us more about Lyndsey's special Christening day...I didn't even know it was happening.
Kathi Posted:

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Wow!!! What a story. OMG, I would have thrown in the towel after 24 hours (maybe? )!!

She just didn't want to come out until *she* was ready! Kids.

Thanks for sharing your story, Melissa. I love hearing the birth stories - it actually doesn't scare me, I think it helps me be prepared to expect the unexpected!!

HeatherandNick Posted:

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She is Beautiful. Fathers day - what a gorgeous day it was outside and a great day for a Christening!!!

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