It's really bothering me now...We are house hunting and booking vendors...and he NEVER will call to set up appointments...t drives me NUTS....and the best is after I call...he says to me....DID YOU ASK THEM THIS...DID YOU SAY THAT...If he has so many concerns...then he should call. That is one thing that drives me nuts...
Anyone elses husband a wuss like mine?
sassy2611
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start righting a list of things he has to do. If you start doing everything now it will only get worst. I have a friend who is married and she still does everything for her DH because she never set down the ground rules from the beginning. I gave my DH a list of things he had to do to help with the wedding and he actually took pride in these things when they were all done. Good luck.
misawa18
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Thats a good idea. He is really responsible, but he hates making the call. I dont mind doing the calls for the wedding bc I have more of a clue then he does about it. Just the house stuff drives me nuts, I have no clue about it. Im jsut learning. Im going to start my list. haha THanks
marymoon
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sassy, that's a great idea. I think I'll do that with my FH, like sa for example, you're in charge of researching and narrowing it down to three Dj's, or something like that, so he can really have a aprt in the wedding, because until now I've been making all of the calls, etc. That's great advice for everyone!
Sasha96
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DH almost never calls anyone. In a way it is good b/c when he does he doesn't think of all the questions (i.e. 'What if...') like I do. Until recently he would speak to any of the sales people in stores either. However, he recently discovered that when you ask them they help you, so he doesn't have to waste time looking around. Now his first move in any store is right to a sales person! I feel you pain!
btrflygrl
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give him ONE, just ONE thing to be in charge of...let him do all the research. make all the calls, and make decisions on it.
J&S
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I have to laugh bc I am like your FH. My FH is the one who always calls and takes care of things, I'm such a wuss about calling. I've always been like this bc I'm so shy, even over the phone lol.
SweetCin704
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I feel for you b/c my ex was like that. I had to be responsible for all bills, money & all the calls. If he had to deal w/ these things he had no people skills & was pretty abrupt with them. I think he may have been intimidated, I don't know.
Personally I'm a bit shy in talking on the phone re: some things. (Like this guy hit our car & we got estimate & I want FH to call him).
Like the above posters I'd say give him a list of 1-2 things he has to do or to do research to narrow things down. If you don't put your foot down now, things will only get worse & you'll get into the routine of always making the calls & things won't change.
Tell him how you feel too. Say it means a lot to me when you take charge & make these calls.
