My FH's family is weird here is why..................................

I made a special appointment with his mother to talk about the wedding. My FH is Haitian and they usually have big extravagant weddings(what ever) He is the youngest of seven and he has three sisters that had 200+ guests at each of their weddings. Grant it their weddings were alomost ten and fifteen years ago. But why did she tell me she has no addresses to give me for the guest list.

One FSIL did give me addresses of the other brothers and sisters. One Fsil told me she had none to give me. Mean while FMIL told me that that sister had the addresses. 'oh we just go to the houses and visit ' we don't write it the addresses down'. They want me to leave some invites at the FMIL house for people. It took me long to share this but I think It's rude and wierd. I do feel like they don't want me have addresses.

I don't think that's the case. I think that's just how they do it. If they're from Haiti (born and raised) that's just their custom. My mother is from the Dominican Republic (Haiti's neighbor) and they do everything so stupid and backwards. It makes me wonder how my mother got as far as she did.
Don't sweat it, just give them the invites and ask that they tell the guests to include their info inside the RSVP. There's no use getting into a fight over it - you're almost getting married!!!!!

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Posted by BJandDan

I think I would mention that you need addresses for thank yous and with out any addresses you can't send out invites which means they WON'T get an invite at all!

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I agree. Tell them you understand that is not how they do things but that this is something you need to do get your invites out for your wedding. Maybe ask FH to back you up on this one.