My FI still hasn't asked anyone to be in our bridal party and we are getting married in 6 months!
hugs213
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My FI still hasn't asked anyone to be in our bridal party and we are getting married in 6 months!
How can I get him to ask who he wants on his side? I mean he hasn't even asked his brothers and we have been engaged for 1 1/2 years already!
bethsiar
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I know what you mean, my FI is a pain in the butt with this stuff too. I offered to make him a GM card and everything (not that I think he would want that anyway)
We have still 2 more to ask!!! Can you invite them over for a party or something?
franksbride
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My DH did the same thing...it's just a guy thing...there's nothing we can do...and if we keep asking them about it...we're 'nagging' them...it's so frustrating!!!
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I think asking people to be in your wedding falls into the sappy territory guys don't kow how to deal with. I thoguht my Fiance woudl ask his cousins on Christmas eve, buthe thought we were still deciding. I asked my cousin Christmas day, b/c people were starting to ask me.
A friend told me that they decide , and she told her BM who the GM would be, & one of them was going to contact them for a get to know you party, but they didn't even knwo there were in the wedding yet!
Have you asked him why he hasn't asked yet?Maybe you could do it together. Let him know that other things need to be decided, so you have to make sure they are going to be in it.
I told my fiance that he has to ask the best man next time we see him which should be late January, and then call the other GM ( in Chicago) right after. I have a feeling he'll put that off though.
aliciahelene
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My fh was still inviting people last week after I gave the head count, I think some men are just alittle slower than others in making teh wedding plans...in yoru case, it is still fine, its so easy for teh guys to get tuxes..its just stressful because Im sure you'd feel better once that s taken care of!
Xelindrya
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I walked Jim upstairs to ask his sister to be a BM and his brother to be a GM.
Then I made him talk to his best friend to be the BestMan
originally I was 2 guys 3 girls. Then the BestMan said he may not make it. So I immediately thought of alteratives. If he can't make it, Jim's brother will be BestMan. Either way we decided to invite my twin brothers to be GM so now if all goes well I have 4 men and 3 girls or worse happens I have 3 men and 3 girls. This i can live with. I wanted ALL of that done within a MONTH of our engagement!
Kelly9904
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Maria-0 I am getting married 2 weeks before you and my FH has asked 1 person directly one he has hinted to and neither of those are even his Bm. And one of his GM was up this week from MD and he 'forgot'
He is a procrastinator! We only settled on a # for our BP 3 weeks ago!!!!!!
KathleenG
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I thought I was the only one with this problem!!! What is it with men!!!! FH just asked his best man over Christmas and we have been engaged for over a year!!! My advice: push, push, push him to do it!!! Thats what I did with FH and it annoyed him enough finally!!! He was always looking for that right 'moment' to tell them!!! I really do think it is a guy thing, but they always somehow get it done!!! They just don't seem to see the urgency in it like us women do!!! Patience goes a long way with this one!!!
oakslady
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same deal here he still hasnt asked people - so far we have one groomsman and that is only cause i called him and handed the phone to fh and told him to talk - never thought it would be so hard to get gm's - boy was i wrong he tells me you can ask the guys at the last min and it will be fine - i have to keep reminding him we have costumes to order and the last min wont be fine * sigh* guess that is just how guys workj it - glad i am not the only one with this - makes me feel better
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my fh was the same way... all he had to do was tell the bm(brother) and gm(cousin)... i told him look i cant tell your cousin whos a bridesmaid until you tell them...
paintbrush91
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I am sure it will all work out
JimmysBride
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Tell him you need to know who will be in the BP so you can book the limos because you need a head count (if you haven't booked them already!) Maybe that will light a fire under him. He has to realized that some of them might actually say NO or make other commitments between now and your wedding day that will make it difficult for them to be in the BP. I should talk though, almost 9 mos to go and FH still doesn't have a best man!!!
Willow1
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Yep - I have 8 months to go and my FH has not asked anyone yet either......but I still have so much planning to do that I haven't gotten a chance to get on him about that too
xjulietx
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It is a guy thing. FH waited until November to ask his best man and then he mailed a tuxedo card to his brother and nephew (GM and RB) and finally asked my brother last week when they went golfing. It is a guy thing!
