My FIL't get stranger by the minute......long(vent)

I have my tasting tonight. FH just called to make sure all was still on for later and to ask if we could drive together. I said why aren't you going with your parents........he says well they are going early. Ok, why????? He has no idea why they are going early but here is the kicker.........

He said his parents aren't eating.....they are having dinner before we go. Ok, so what is the point of them going if they aren't going to eat? I thought that was the point of the tasting. To TASTE the food.

I'm so upset b/c my grandparents were dying to go with us and I could tell my grandma was upset when I said his parents were going.

So now I have to sit at a table eating with my family while they sit there and stare at us. I am so upset with them - they do strange things all the time but so far this one takes the cake.

Am I crazy to be mad at them for doing this????

If you stress out about everything your FIL's do...you will make yourself crazy for the rest of your life. Let them do what they want...Just keep smiling and nodding! It is wrong, but unfortunately, making a stink will just make things difficult for you in the long run.

Don't sweat the small stuff. I'm sorry that they are doing this to you.

Kelly - I wasn't even going to ask them to come but I decided to be the bigger person and ask. They always do wierd things but lately the things they do and say really hurt.

I'm just so sick of them - I wonder where my wonderful FH comes from.

that does sound strange...good luck with the tasting.

keep a stiff upper lip.
After all we are joining families when we marry.

Is what they are doing odd? In my own opinion, it depends. Maybe they don't 'get it' and think tasting is only a tasting and not dinner? Maybe they want to check the real average before they 'taste' what will be something a chef is preparing especially for a bride & groom?

I'd be curious as to why they were doing this. It does seem a bit...uhmmm... 'Off'.

Either way.. Enjoy yourself. You have your family there with you. Rely on them to keep your spirits up..

Remember you may be marrying into the family but in the end you only have to go home and send the rest of your life with one of them!!!

Lori,
You and I are getting married the same day!

Yes, that's weird. I don't blame you for being annoyed with them, especially since you could have invited someone else in your family who would actually be eating! You are not alone, I will probably end up choking my FMIL sometime between now & November. When she irritates me, I vent a little to my FI b/c he usually agrees with me but I vent A LOT to my mom and friends & then I am able to deal with her in person. If they do weird things now, they will continue after you're married so just to blow off as many things as possible.

Lori learn from my mistakes and include them only when ABSOLUTELY necessary. Sometimes being the bigger person makes you sadder!

In the meantime call Flowerfield ask if 2 more can come since 2 are not eating!-- The worst they can do is say no

I only include them when I think necessary and tonight will also be the first night our parents meet. I figured this would be neutral ground and was hoping they would be somewhat normal tonight but that didn't happen LOL!!!

I am trying to have a sense of humor about it - they are very negative and I don't need negativity in my life but they are his parents and I do it for him. He knows how they are so I don't fuel the fire. It must be hard living with them and then coming to my house where we all love eachother and laugh. I guess he figured his house was normal until he came to mine.

I figure we can just ignore them and have a good time and eat their portions!!!!!! I'm not going to let them ruin a great evening. Maybe they'll leave early.........hey, I can always hope :)

LMAO making the best of it is a great attitude!!

Have a great time tonight!!!

I am sorry you have to go through this. Please give us an update on how it went. I am sure it will go great. They give you an ample number of dishes to try. I bet they will have some new food to taste. They give you a few appetizers, a few main courses and one salad. We passed little samples to each other. It was fun...then they served some pastries and some cake. I wonder if they have any new dishes? We had a great time at our tasting!

HAVE A GREAT TIME!!

From my personal family dilemas, here is my suggestion:

Have a glass of wine before you get there, and have another when you arrive. At that time, you will not mind as much what the problem is. And you will actually enjoy yourself

Thank god for wine!