My first RSVP that has decided they will bring a guest not invited!!!!!!!

Theatrimelz Posted: Jan 18, 2007 04:57 PM

My first RSVP that has decided they will bring a guest not invited!!!!!!!

HELP ME!!!! What do you do?????? It is a person that FH works with and we only invited the co-workers from my job and his, NO DATES. He put himself and his date on the response card!!!

What do I do???

bride_to_be_2007 Posted: Jan 18, 2007 04:59 PM

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thats a tough one. i would say just let it go but then if another co-worker comes solo they might question why he/she could bring a date

Theatrimelz Posted: Jan 18, 2007 05:00 PM

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right that is why I am upset!!!! FH says we will talk about it at home. ummmm, it is a problem!!

Pinkiegirll07 Posted: Jan 18, 2007 05:12 PM

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Is he dating someone seriously?
He may have assumed to bring his girlfriend or fiancee?

melbalalala Posted: Jan 18, 2007 05:18 PM

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Posted by Pinkiegirll07

Is he dating someone seriously?
He may have assumed to bring his girlfriend or fiancee?

This is a good question.. if they have a serious significant other, its almost tacky to not allow them to bring a guest. <

betani Posted: Jan 18, 2007 05:26 PM

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i'd say if it's a serious relationship (like fiance or living together) it'd be ok (though still annoying), but if not then just have fh call/talk to him and let him know that you guys can't afford their guests right now, but once you get back all the rsvp cards, if there are enough 'nos' you'll let him know if he can/can't bring his date.

Future Mrs. Posted: Jan 18, 2007 05:36 PM

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Have FH call him and kindly tell him that there are no dates; you would love to let him bring a date, however there just isn't enough space and you had to be judicious with invites b/c you needed to accomodate your own family.
Tell him that if there is enough room, and you get enough rejections, he will be able to bring a guest. THen, just never bring it up and if he does, tell him that everyone you invited is coming.

THAT IS SO INCREDIBLY RUDE that someone did that. We had the same situation.....only invited those married, engaged, living together, or if we knew them well enough to put thier NAME on the invite. We had 3 people with enough nerve to ask to bring dates!!!! I am SO MAD ABOUT IT. Whatever you decide to do, stick to your guns about it.

PegaLega Posted: Jan 18, 2007 05:40 PM

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People just dont get it! I would have FH call him and say that maybe there was a miscommunication but he was only invited as 1. Some people do this in hopes that you will brush it off and let it go...I say the same stick to your guns!

charisma Posted: Jan 18, 2007 05:52 PM

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you politely contat him and tell him that the invite was for 1 only and at this time you cannot have another person added to the list...people are so rude and unthoughtful (if thats a word) they know the rules for weddings

Future Mrs. Posted: Jan 18, 2007 05:53 PM

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Posted by Future Mrs.

Have FH call him and kindly tell him that there are no dates; you would love to let him bring a date, however there just isn't enough space and you had to be judicious with invites b/c you needed to accomodate your own family.
Tell him that if there is enough room, and you get enough rejections, he will be able to bring a guest. THen, just never bring it up and if he does, tell him that everyone you invited is coming.

THAT IS SO INCREDIBLY RUDE that someone did that. We had the same situation.....only invited those married, engaged, living together, or if we knew them well enough to put thier NAME on the invite. We had 3 people with enough nerve to ask to bring dates!!!! I am SO MAD ABOUT IT. Whatever you decide to do, stick to your guns about it.

when saying this.....I assume that he is totally single. If he is engaged or living with someone (which your FH should know if he is close enough to invite him to his wedding) then he has to bring her......the rule of thumb (that we used) was that if someone is engaged, living together, or you know their SO well enough ot put their name on the invitation.
That is my opinion.
If he is just bringing a random date.....then FUGGEDABOUTIT

bettybcafe Posted: Jan 18, 2007 05:54 PM

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If its a serious relationship I would say let it slide..if not, kindly tell him NO! that is the reason why the invitation was only addressed to him!...i have a comment to say about people inviting people I will set up a new post...

MF9282 Posted: Jan 18, 2007 06:05 PM

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I would have FH call and state he is sorry for the misunderstanding but no co-workers ar einvited with guests and if he lets them bring a date than every1 else will want to bring one as well. They add up!!! If somone is engaged or in an EXTRA serious relationship fine but cmon now!

bettybcafe Posted: Jan 18, 2007 06:06 PM

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Posted by MF9282

I would have FH call and state he is sorry for the misunderstanding but no co-workers ar einvited with guests and if he lets them bring a date than every1 else will want to bring one as well. They add up!!! If somone is engaged or in an EXTRA serious relationship fine but cmon now!

Exactly!

PaddysGirl15 Posted: Jan 18, 2007 06:07 PM

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welcome to my world- at least 4 people did this with our rsvps. We just sucked it up- I know it stinks but its a really hard sitch.

mskittynj Posted: Jan 18, 2007 06:17 PM

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I have to agree with some of the girls...If it's a serious relationship like live in g/f or fiancee He should be able to bring her with him....
XOXOXO
Kitty

billandme Posted: Jan 18, 2007 06:55 PM

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Posted by mskittynj

I have to agree with some of the girls...If it's a serious relationship like live in g/f or fiancee He should be able to bring her with him....
XOXOXO
Kitty

I'd have to agree