My Fi's grandmother says she won't come....
Here's the story... Neither myself, nor my Fi are very religious. I have a Christian background. Fi's father is Jewish, his mother is Christian. Although Fi identifies with Judaism and had a bar mitvah, Fi and FFIL rarely attend services and never keep the Sabbath. Fi has one aunt who is religious and keeps the Sabbath regularly, no one else in his family does. For various reasons, including $$, Fi and I decide to have our wedding on a Friday evening, outside with an inter-faith minister (we're getting married under a huppah and plan to incorporate Jewish traditions into the ceremony and celebration, but it is not a Jewish wedding). We asked his religious aunt if she would attend and she said of course she would come. We set the date and booked the hall. Then, out of nowhere his grandmother called FFIL crying and saying that we are being sacreligious and that she won't come if we hold the wedding on a Friday and that Fi is turning his back on his faith. This is a woman who never attends services and never keeps the Sabbath. She attends all kinds of parties, etc. on Fridays. Events on Friday nights have never been an issue with her.
I feel like she is trying to manipulate us, b/c she is angry w/ Fi for attending a party w/ my family, instead of attending a party w/ his family on the same night (long story, I am from another state and never see my family). She called everyone in his family to try to get them to guilt trip him into attending his family's party instead of seeing my family. But he went out of town w/ me to my family's party anyway.
Needless to say, she has completely upset everyone in the family. Fi and FFIL are sick about it. I feel like she is being cruel and manipulative and that our wedding is not about her or her religious views. At the same time, I hate to see Fi so upset. The hall is already booked and I can't stand the thought of being manipulated into changing our wedding.....HELP......
I feel like she is trying to manipulate us, b/c she is angry w/ Fi for attending a party w/ my family, instead of attending a party w/ his family on the same night (long story, I am from another state and never see my family). She called everyone in his family to try to get them to guilt trip him into attending his family's party instead of seeing my family. But he went out of town w/ me to my family's party anyway.
Needless to say, she has completely upset everyone in the family. Fi and FFIL are sick about it. I feel like she is being cruel and manipulative and that our wedding is not about her or her religious views. At the same time, I hate to see Fi so upset. The hall is already booked and I can't stand the thought of being manipulated into changing our wedding.....HELP......
