No matter what I do or say, FMIL doubts me. I told her maybe we'd go for invites on thursday - maybe is the key word - so when she asked tonight i told her, no, i made a massage appointment (which i need because she stresses me so!). And she didn't believe me!!!!!
Why she asks? Because I wanted a massage. Why aren't you going on Thursday? Because I wanted to get it all done in one day, figured saturday was better. but why did you make a massage appointment? because i wanted one.
We've made a new nickname for her CFB: stands for crazy f-ckin b--tch.
Sorry...just had to vent.
wematched
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Sending hugs for the stress
and laughs for the nickname
MrsStefan
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Im right there with you! FMIL second guesses all of the wedding planning decisions..right down to the favors. I've perfected the 'smile and knod' technique
LUCKinlove
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You definitely need a massage. Use your caller ID until Saturday and stay far far away from her.
otherme
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Not to cause a problem or anything.. but why is your FMIL going to look at invites with you? Isn't that something you and your FH should chose for yourselves?
I found that a good way to keep the 'rents at a safe distance was to do most of the initial work yourselves and then when its narrowed down to a few choices, then show the parents. That way you and your FH get to figure out what you want without everyone else's opinions getting in the way - but yet you're still including them in the planning process.
hope that helps!
Blu-ize
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Why do you torture yourself. Stop talking to her about stuff. Just make the appointment and tell her to be there if you want her there.
Frankly, you would be better off not talking to her about any of this and doing your own thing.
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I haven't brought them to anything. We simply make our decisions with FH and tell them when its done. This is for the big decisions. I think this is the best way, although lately I've been getting second guessing after the decision is made. Ex. We moved up the church from 2:30 to 1:45 and I heard. 'Oh really, isn't that abit early for all of your guests..' I simply said, 'no, I don't think its too early' and left it at that. + smile & nod. What is up with FMILs and weddings. Don't stress. Do what you want.
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Katie&Chris2006
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Mine does too...so now i just don't tell her anything. Her loss! She is such a PITA.
R&J0806
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thanks for the hugs girls.
i forgot to mention though, no matter how much you include her, she still feels left out.
CFB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm telling you....
NY55angel
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I know how you feel . . .my FMIL isn't that bad, yet, but my FSIL seems to ALWAYS give me her opinion . . .although I don't ever ask for it. I have 16 months to go . . . I hope I survive ! !
