my last topic was having kids at my wedding....

deanna225 Posted: Oct 13, 2008 12:22 PM

my last topic was having kids at my wedding....

well i spoke to her and she just told me she will not be able to be in my wedding cuz of her kids not being able to come. im very upset, but what can i do. fh don't want me to talk to her anymore. its very hard we knew eachother since we were kids. oh well guess i have to suck it up and move on.

FallBride2010 Posted: Oct 13, 2008 12:27 PM

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I'm sorry she isnt being understanding. Is she married? Does she know the planning and cost that goes into a wedding? I hate to say it...but she doesnt sound like a good friend...so you might be better off. If she could decline b/c of this...she probably would have been a 'pain' throughout the whole tome prior to the wedding

grrulz Posted: Oct 13, 2008 12:30 PM

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i am sorry she is being closed minded .....don't worry everything will fall in place eventually maybe she was not meant to be your bridesmaid

Reymiliz Posted: Oct 13, 2008 12:35 PM

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wow sorry .. I think she is being very selfishh ! She has two years ... sorry , I hope she changes her mind

Goldie39 Posted: Oct 13, 2008 01:01 PM

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In my most honest humble opinion:

She's full of sh!t. She has over a year to find accomodations for her kids and she's not even making the effort. That's not a friend. I'm sick and tired of this whole ideology behind the bride always having to accomodate other people. It's time other people step up and act with some common sense and respect. Don't be hard on yourself over this. If your 'friend' really wanted to share your special day with you, she would find a way without making you change what you want for your wedding.

MrsL2010 Posted: Oct 13, 2008 01:22 PM

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I'm sorry that your friend is being like this. If she was your 'friend' she would find someone to watch her kids. She still has 2 years to find a babysitter.

amandah75 Posted: Oct 13, 2008 01:23 PM

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How sad for you that your friend isn't being supportive. You can't tell me there is no chance of her getting a babysitter in time for your 2010 wedding. I wouldn't give in to your friend's ultimatum. How sad for her that she won't be there to see you get married because of her own issues.

Ray8183 Posted: Oct 13, 2008 01:33 PM

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She just wasn't meant to be a BM. Still be her friend, because we don't know what is going on in her life. Maybe she will just be a guest, she still have two years. Don't let it get you down.

Nurse12985 Posted: Oct 13, 2008 02:37 PM

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I agree with above. Two years is enough time to get a babysitter so clearly she just isn't ment to be a bridesmaid. Maybe one day she will regret being so closed minded.

Opera_Ghost Posted: Oct 13, 2008 02:42 PM

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It's called a baby sitter? I don't know why people get so worked up over 'my kids can't come to the wedding!'

You'd think a parent would look forward to having a night off?

I'm not making exceptions for my wedding. My 2 youngest cousins, and my FH's nieces & nephews will not be attending cause they are all going to be under 12. Honestly anyone who doesnt respect our wishes has a problem :-/

Maybe I'm just a b**** but that is just how I feel.

SummerBride10 Posted: Oct 13, 2008 03:27 PM

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I'm sorry- that does scks but maybe in the long run its for the best. It's so immature to not be in a wedding because her kids cant come. It's adults only- get the fck over it already!!