My Life's update....

Hmmmm.....where to begin??? First of thank you all so much for all your incredible support during the last week, between my marriage woes and my accident...you are all amazing!

After a lot of consideration and hours upon hours of talking, FH and I have decided to try counselling. He understands what he does wrong and that he lacks emotional and compassionate skills, but does not know how to change...yet he has admitted that he wants to change. He has said that he wants to learn how to be a father to the girls and that if anyone is to benefit from it all, he wouldn't want it to be anyone but me. I wasn't quite thrilled on the counseling...really had the mind set too little too late, but I can't just walk away knowing that I didn't do everything possible to fix it. I could potentially have a wonderful life with him and if he is willing to see his wrongs then I must give him a chance to fix it. We have our first session on Tuesday...so I will let you all know how it goes!

I am feeling a lot better since the accident, still pretty sore and swollen, but better then I was. I have a lot of physical therepy to go through and a bunch of tests once the swelling is down so hopefully I'll get through it all with no major complications!

Thanks again everyone....I don't know what I would have done with out the support & advice!
And don't worry my eyes aren't closed, either he really changes or I'm out the door, but I have to give him a shot since it seems this time he wants to change.

Thanks again!

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Posted by Colette

So glad you're physically on the mend and have both agreed to counselling. THat's a great start; and I think he put it perfectly - he doesn't know HOW to change!!! So some kind of outside help is absolutely needed. Its only going help, you may find out somethings about yourself as well, so its all good. Best of luck to you and hubby, and to your beautiful little girls too! Sending peaceful vibes your way, you've had an exhausting week!!!

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Thanks so much...I really appreciate it!

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Posted by Colette

So glad you're physically on the mend and have both agreed to counselling. THat's a great start; and I think he put it perfectly - he doesn't know HOW to change!!! So some kind of outside help is absolutely needed. Its only going help, you may find out somethings about yourself as well, so its all good. Best of luck to you and hubby, and to your beautiful little girls too! Sending peaceful vibes your way, you've had an exhausting week!!!

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perfectly said the best thing about all of this is that he's ADMITTED that he not only needs to change, but WANTS to change. I wish u & ur hubby all the best. Please keep us all updated along the way!

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Posted by misbran

Thanks so much! I know we have a lot of work ahead of us, but I have to give it an effort...after all it has been 7 years and there was definetly a time when we were perfect...we just have to find that again!

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I think it's awesome that you & your hubby both are putting forth the effort to do this...to many people in this world don't realize that marraige actually IS work. all the best on tuesday! sending love support hugs & prayers your way

Glad your feeling better in both situations! Hope it all works out.

omggggg that is terrific on the counseling thing! That is awesome that he is willing to make the effort to make the relationship work! So happy for you and your girls! I know how you are probably feeling a little too late but try to work on that when in counseling... that is a feeling that could eventually pass as you are seeing him make the effort and see the changes that could happen between the girls and FH/hubby!

so happy you are the mend I hope you feel better soon and the bruises go away!

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Posted by misbran

Thanks so much! I know we have a lot of work ahead of us, but I have to give it an effort...after all it has been 7 years and there was definetly a time when we were perfect...we just have to find that again!

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I hope you are able to find it!