my MOH a no show

Man I have to let it out- my Best friend/MOH is not coming to my engagement party- even though she knew I when we were having it a year ago- anyway this is so not the first time shes done this- she told me that she was going on a cruise- okay? there are like 10 different cruiselines that sail every week- WHY did she have to take it the same week as my engagement- we have been friends for over 20 years and I cant ever remember her coming to my big events but I have been to EVERY one of hers- Im just really hurt- especially when I asked her if she would be able to come to my E-party so long ago and she said- and I quote
' ARE YOU ON CRACK- OF COURSE IM GONNA BE THERE'- I should of assumed that she was going to do this so I wouldnt be so upset now- and its not because of the party its because she always seems to put things before me and its getting tired- anyway ladies thanks for being there

So sorry to hear this

That s*cks. You said she's your best friend so I imagine she shows it some other way (I hope). This doesn't sound like the behavior of a good friend, honestly. As hurt as you are, I would hate to see you throw away a 20 year friendship.
I do think however that you may want to revaluate what qualities you need in a friend. Is she there for you when you're upset? If you really think she adds something to your life, you have to accept her flaws and limitations. She sounds a little selfish and may be jealous when things are going well for you.
You could try to talk to her and tell her that you feel she puts everything before you. Hope for it, but don't expect her to change.
You may end up keeping her as jsut a friend, as opposed to your 'best' friend.

So sorry. I would have a real talk with her, especially since your shower and your wedding are coming up. I'd tell her what I told one of my friends-'if you don't show (for the shower/wedding), it will really strain our friendship, so please don't do that'.

I replyed to her email and I gave told her how I was feeling short and sweet make her think- I will talk to her some more in person- this is actually something that I should of been done my FH told me to talk to her a couple months ago- Im really scared that she's gonna flake out on me- so this has to be done right away- our wedding is in march
Thank you ladies good advice

I am sorry that you are going through this...

HUGS.....

so sorry to hear this