my mom is stressing me out...

oh yeah that sounds great - then i will shoot myself in the eyeball for the heck of it

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Posted by ant n tilde



oh yeah that sounds great - then i will shoot myself in the eyeball for the heck of it

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haha i guess that means you will NOT be doing this? hahaha

whew sorry about that

okay so my family is getting ready at my house, meaning my parents, siblings and the bridal party that is there because of me ( meaning my brother and the bridesmaids who are related to me or friends with me ) then they are taking a limo to the church

then at HIS house - his parents, grandparents and the bridal party who is there FOR HIM will be getting ready ( including his nieces who are a Jr BM and a FG, and the guys from his family ) and they will take a limo to the church together.

ETA: more traditionally

all of the bridesmaids and flower girls should be at the bride's house and the groomsmen should all be at the groom's house but i really just want MY family around me in the morning to make it less stressful.

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Posted by ant n tilde

whew sorry about that

okay so my family is getting ready at my house, meaning my parents, siblings and the bridal party that is there because of me ( meaning my brother and the bridesmaids who are related to me or friends with me ) then they are taking a limo to the church

then at HIS house - his parents, grandparents and the bridal party who is there FOR HIM will be getting ready ( including his nieces who are a Jr BM and a FG, and the guys from his family ) and they will take a limo to the church together.

ETA: more traditionally

all of the bridesmaids and flower girls should be at the bride's house and the groomsmen should all be at the groom's house but i really just want MY family around me in the morning to make it less stressful.

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that is what i was telling my mom we were going to do then she went off on that whole thing about the FILs and pictures.

she really is overwhelming me and all this is making me feel like coordination this is going to be really confusing

sorry about your mom i totally feel your pain
my mom has this idea of what the wedding should be like and she forces it on me like every single day so hugs for you

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Posted by ant n tilde

honestly - how many pictures do you NEED with FILs? imean you are going to take one alone with them and then that is really it - most of them are going to involve FH also so it seems like such a hassle for like 5 pictures?

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exactly!!!! Its OUR wedding not MINE so FH should be int he pics too...

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Posted by jteach711

My future inlaws will not be coming to my house before the church. I don't think you need that extra time for pics with them, usually the photog sets aside time after the church for family pics.

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Right! there should be time after the church to take pics with inlaws

ive never heard of that - and in all the weddings ive been in - ive never seen that done.

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Posted by ant n tilde



oh yeah that sounds great - then i will shoot myself in the eyeball for the heck of it

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hahahahaa I hear ya!!!

I have never heard of the FIL's going to the brides house for before pics without the groom. I am not taking pics alone with just me and my FILs.

They should go to chuch with your FH and then take those pics after.

Sorry to hear about your mom ... I am starting to feel the pain.

Mine is going to be a little different. I am getting married at Jericho terrace. FH and family is from NJ.... I am from Bayside.....

Sooooo with that said....
My mom, dad, brother (even though he is GM) will be at my house along with my BM ( which also include his sister). Photgs will be with us at my house

FH, GM, FFIL and FMIL along with the whole other side of inlaws will be at the hotel getting ready.

We are actually seeing each other before the ceremony, so we are meeting at JT at 4pm which is an hour before my ceremony to bang out most of the pics. So there is no need for people to cram in my house to get pictures.

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Posted by anneandchris

I have never heard of the FIL's going to the brides house for before pics without the groom.

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I've never heard of that either. I'll see them when I get to the church.

i have never heard that before, i def will not be doing that.

sorry Gina - moms are silly sometimes.

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

i have never heard that before, i def will not be doing that.

sorry Gina - moms are silly sometimes.

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thanks Jenn

I was just talking to my dad aout it and he said no that is not how to do it (of course you can if you want)

BUt then i was thinking if fh and his GM and family are running late and they drop off at the church then ILs come to my house to take pics then to pic everyone else up to go to church then i might get to the church late - i dont want to worry about that

If I had to be face to face with my FMIL before the cermony I drown myself in the lake where I am taking pictures (parents backyard). It would be ENTIRELY to stressful for me.

My BM will get ready at my parents house, his GM are getting ready at the Best Man's house. Me, my BM and my parents will take pics in my parents backyard and FH, his GM and his mother will take pics at the Best Man's house. THen a few posted pics with immediate family and bridal party between cermony and cocktail hour...then candids for the rest of the night.

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Posted by jeffamanda080808

If I had to be face to face with my FMIL before the cermony I drown myself in the lake where I am taking pictures (parents backyard). It would be ENTIRELY to stressful for me.

My BM will get ready at my parents house, his GM are getting ready at the Best Man's house. Me, my BM and my parents will take pics in my parents backyard and FH, his GM and his mother will take pics at the Best Man's house. THen a few posted pics with immediate family and bridal party between cermony and cocktail hour...then candids for the rest of the night.

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oh man!!

See I love my FILs we get along great, thats not the problem i just dont want to be stressed about them getting there and having enough time for pics and getting to the church on time. its just not something i think i should have to stress about