My Mom's Estranged Brother

So we extended an olive branch to my mom's estranged 1/2 brother who lives in Chicago and sent him and his adult children and their kids invitations to the wedding.

I get his response card in the mail that states he will not attend. In the response card there is a check for $150. Now my paranoid mind is thinking, 'Oh he thinks I'm inviting him for $$$!' Also in the memo part of the check, it says 'wedding' not Congratulations or Best Wishes, etc... He is such a weirdo. Am I being paranoid?

Please don't quote I may delete this

sometimes when guest rsvp no they send a check. i think that was nice of him

try not to read into the memo to much

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Posted by Rosalind_75

sometimes when guest rsvp no they send a check. i think that was nice of him

try not to read into the memo to much

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So far he is the first to send a check. OK I feel a little less paranoid. It's just the fact that they haven't talked in many years.

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Posted by Rosalind_75

sometimes when guest rsvp no they send a check. i think that was nice of him

try not to read into the memo to much

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this.

I would not read into this... even if you sense it might be a little 'cold' or impersonal. I think sometimes when you open a door to invite people back into your life... it can be slow and people are usually a little more reserved. I think you should keep it positive and send a thank you. Maybe if you include a personal message in your thank you card it could keep the door opening wider

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Posted by Rosalind_75

sometimes when guest rsvp no they send a check. i think that was nice of him

try not to read into the memo to much

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this

the memo is prob just for his records

WELL he's your estranged uncle....I wouldn't really care but on one side...I never realized I do that all the time loll

I never write a congrats or best wishes I ALWAYSSS write wedding...hmm maybe don't feel so bad???

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Posted by AugustFeather

I would not read into this... even if you sense it might be a little 'cold' or impersonal. I think sometimes when you open a door to invite people back into your life... it can be slow and people are usually a little more reserved. I think you should keep it positive and send a thank you. Maybe if you include a personal message in your thank you card it could keep the door opening wider

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In this case... I would give a benefit of the doubt. I don't think you should assume it was in spite.

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Posted by AugustFeather

I would not read into this... even if you sense it might be a little 'cold' or impersonal. I think sometimes when you open a door to invite people back into your life... it can be slow and people are usually a little more reserved. I think you should keep it positive and send a thank you. Maybe if you include a personal message in your thank you card it could keep the door opening wider

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this, don't over read anything

did he send a little note anywhere else? I wouldnt worry about it at all, at least he responded back and cares enough about you to do that!

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Posted by Rosalind_75

sometimes when guest rsvp no they send a check. i think that was nice of him

try not to read into the memo to much

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ITA