my problems have gottten a million times worse

my nerves are so worked up i think i might throw up. last night i posted a message about the problem my FH has with my FSIL.

FH asked me to send his sister an email asking her not to get him anything for christmas. I did bc I know that it would cause a problem for the family if the two of them fight on Christmas.

Anyway... I get a phone call today from FFIL...so I call him back. He is mad at me for sending the email (which was worded nicely) and causing problems a week before christmas. He is a nice person but too emotional. He kinda has no backbone. So he is getting frustrated and so am I but I am never rude to my FFIL no matter how wrong he may be.

He was being rude to me and I was tired of hearing how my email ruined everything and how my FH is attacking his sister and being unfair.

**mind you my FH is the glue that keeps his insane family togther and the only child who stepped up and took care of his parents when his father had cancer.

So my FH asked me to call after I got off the phone with his dad...I did. I told him that his dad is upset and was not that nice to me. I am driving home and I get another phone call from the in laws. I say 'hello' and his dad starts yelling at me 'why did you call him at work?!!!!!!! He is mad at me now and told us to screw ourselves. We dont want to spend Christmas with you and we don't want to be in your wedding! Thank you bc I just lost my son'

I was shocked...and mad. I tried to control myself so I said 'Do you think this is what I wanted? I sent the email to protect FH from possible pain on Christmas' the convo ended weirdly...he started to cry and I just said 'I dont know what else to say'

his father was his best man and his sister is a BM

I am so sorry, but it looks like you are the one they are blaming for there familys problem. You honestly did nothing wrong. Maybe your FH need to deal with his family issues and leave you out of it. This will pass, but it looks like its easier to blame you than the family and I am sorry that you are going through this

FH isnt mad at me. He is mad that his family is pushing for him and his sister to make up when he isnt ready. The way I see it is they should leave it to the two of them to handle. The rest of the family doesn't need to be involved.

Now FH doesnt want to celebrate Christmas with anyone. He wants to be alone

If you only knew how much drama his family has caused us. I could go on for days and days about it.

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Posted by KellyNSean

FH isnt mad at me. He is mad that his family is pushing for him and his sister to make up when he isnt ready. The way I see it is they should leave it to the two of them to handle. The rest of the family doesn't need to be involved.

Now FH doesnt want to celebrate Christmas with anyone. He wants to be alone

If you only knew how much drama his family has caused us. I could go on for days and days about it.

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Oh sweetie, I am sorry that you, your FH and his family are all going through this right before Christmas........

I wish I knew what to say, but I don't right now....I just wanted to come in and give you some hugs and tell you that I hope everything works itself out and your FH and his sister do eventually make up......

aw hun I am sorry that you are being put in the middle let alone being blamed for their actions. If I were you, just dont get involved anymore-when FH asks you to do something as far as his family is concerned and you think it may turn out badly dont-tell him to deal with it.
It stinks but it seems like his whole family is the same way that he is as far as holding a grudge too long and taking it too far. It seems to me like there are other issues in his family that need to be resolved before any of the recent events will

for you b/c I k now you are in a tough spot and did nothing wrong

I am sorry to hear that you are in this position, it is not your fault they have some deep underlying problems it seems. You just happen to be caught in the middle because you were kind of the neutral person. I hope everything works out and next time tell FH that you don't want in the middle he has to stand up to his sister himself!!

OMG I am sooooo sorrry ~ I hope things get better! I am sorry to hear you are in the middle and you were only trying to help and look out for FH & the family's Christmas hang in there sweetie!

I am so sorry that you're in the middle of this! Maybe next time your FH will send the e-mail, that way no one can blame you for anything!!
Feel better! I'm sending some hugs!

Thanks for all your hugs girls...

Since I last posted it has gotten worse. FH and FFIL have been on the phone all night crying and fighting. I really didn't see this coming or being so bad.


I wish Christmas was another couple weeks away so this could be resolved before the weekend.

If I were you-I would not get any more involved-don't call or e-mail anyone-let them duke it out on their own.

Date twin, I am sorry you are going through this. I have learned to stay out of things like this, for just this reason. I am so sorry for your pain