I know I have posted this before, but let me just say, I am at the point where I dont even want this anymore. My MOH keeps calling me to over over the guest list, she keeps asking me to cut people out. Then she keeps reminding me that it would be so much easier for her if less people were coming, and that my FMIL isnt helping her. I know my other BM's are so willing to help. But the bottom line is I feel it is becoming a burden. I shouldnt even know anything about my shower. I am debating telling her to forget it all together. I just cant believe how much stress this is causing me. If people dont want to do this for me, then I dont want them too!
Helene718
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Sorry to hear that christy. Is there any way you can get your other bridesmaids to talk to her about this and offer to do things to help? Maybe your MOH is feeling overwhelmed and doesn't know how to ask for help from them. This should not be causing you any stress!
wacky
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Oh, you shouldnt be involved in this mess. Its for you. The other girls should help out. Good Luck
jennbaby
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I agree, you should have NO knowledge of any of this!! I don't with mine.
I agree, have your BM's talk to her right away & Good Luck
endlessluv429
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I'm sorry! That really stinks. You shouldn't have to be bothered by this caddy garbage! Try to tell her nicely that you'd rather they settle this amongst themselves and that you feel weird being so involved.
I hope it all works out!
christy
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Well I called one of my BM's last night, and she was so confused. I was told that there is NO reason why my MOH should be stressing. I was told she is getting plenty of help, both financially and otherwise. Now my BM is confused as to why she would keep mentioning things to me, Just to make me feel bad?
Sassy
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EEK I'm so sorry Christy, I think you should tell your MOH once and for all to keep you out of it, and that to let you know if her heart's in it at all
babeyblu16
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Christy,
My sisters are both my MOH and I live home so in the beginning I was hearing everything and going through the same thing as you. I didnt even want a shower! This is supossed to be fun for you and you shouldnt know anything that is going on. I finally said something and it stopped. I think it is very important that you say something. Just let her know that you understand it isnt easy for her, but that it is upsetting you and you would rather not know what is going on. Hope this helps!
