My Sister..

I think you should just sit her down in a calm atmosphere and talk to her rationally about it... She IS your only sister but that does not mean you deserve to be given an attitude every time you turn around...

Do you think she would be open to having a quiet lunch together with you where you can discuss what youre feeling and the thoughts that you're having?

I hope it works out!!

Sounds like if she's acting like this now then she will prob get worse come time for your wedding.
Your MOH has a lot of responsibilities and should be someone who has your best interest at heart. Not that she should be any different than how she is now...if that is how she really is...she probably won't change.
Your MOH should be your best friend.

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Posted by wenR

Sounds like if she's acting like this now then she will prob get worse come time for your wedding.
Your MOH has a lot of responsibilities and should be someone who has your best interest at heart. Not that she should be any different than how she is now...if that is how she really is...she probably won't change.
Your MOH should be your best friend.

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I agree. But its a tough decision b/c she is your sister. I'm not meaning for this to sound mean or anything but do you think she wants to be your MOH??

I've just known people in the same situation where they didn't get along too well with their siblings and they didn't even want to be in the wedding party.

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Posted by wedding_girl

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Posted by wenR

Sounds like if she's acting like this now then she will prob get worse come time for your wedding.
Your MOH has a lot of responsibilities and should be someone who has your best interest at heart. Not that she should be any different than how she is now...if that is how she really is...she probably won't change.
Your MOH should be your best friend.

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I agree. But its a tough decision b/c she is your sister. I'm not meaning for this to sound mean or anything but do you think she wants to be your MOH??

I've just known people in the same situation where they didn't get along too well with their siblings and they didn't even want to be in the wedding party.

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My sister has started playing the violin everytime I tell her I will not make her my MOH. Then she goes play the sad card with my Mom. I have a feeling that I won't be making her my MOH, I really just wanted to know whether doing this was dead wrong. I'll ask her whether she wants to be part of the bridal party. If she doesn't want to, then it is what it is.

There isn't 'a rule' that you have to make your sister you MOH. I'm sure you have someone much closer to you than her to be MOH. I would def. have her in the BP, but it sounds like you should pick someone else to be MOH.

JMO

This is YOUR wedding, YOUR special day, and if all she is going to do is stress you out and upset you, she doesn't deserve to be your MOH. That place in your wedding is an honor and a very important role and clearly she wouldn't take it that way. Sorry you're going through this, but us brides have enough to worry about. I think her 'attitude' comes from her age. I'm sure she will eventually come around, but unfortunately for you probably not in time for your wedding

FH is having his best friend as his best man and he has 2 brothers. Just doesn't really get along with them, and has very little in common with them. HTH Good luck hun