My sister is my MOH but she is not acting the part at all I am so fed up with her. everytime I say let's go to the expos,or go shop for the girls dresses or look at flowers she always claims she's so tried. Would I be wrong if I asked her to be a BM and ask one of my BM to be my MOH. I don't wan to hurt her feelings,either she step up to the plate or she out
SummerBride10
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Can you talk to her about it? Is she older or younger than you? Maybe its jealousy...especially if she's older and feels she should be married first. Is there more to the situation?
Before kicking her out or demoting her, I would try to talk to her about it. She if she really wants to be your MOH or just said yes because she felt she had to.
angelabarra12
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id def sit her down and talk to her before anything...and really tell her how you feel..or maybe through and email so you can get everything out...after that if she doesn't change or respond differently i def see how you could still be upset bc ur moh isn't supposed to be stressing you out but helping you get rid of the stress! Hope things get better!
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I think u should tell her how u feel but if she doesn't change maybe u can have one of your BMs help u with everything. But since she's your sis I would still keep her as your MOH.
My MOH lives an hour away and works on weekends so its hard for her to get to LI. She's doing a good job always offering to help (and I know she planned my bachelorette party already). When I was looking at BM dresses I brought her once, but all of the other times I went w/ my best friend (who is one of my BMs). My best friend has been in a few bridal parties already (whereas me and my MOH haven't yet) so she was a big help and knew all of the questions to ask when we were deciding on BM dresses.
Redvelet2012
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Thanks guy for all your input. It's been a great help she is younger than me and there is no other sistuations going on, she is my best friend beside my soulmate. I want her by my side to help me make decisions she always tell me the truth and not yes me to death. We have not spoken since last sun and I miss talking to her so I post my feeling with you guys and she called me today. I almost didn't answer but I did & she invited me to lunch today I accepted. I will take everyone's advice and talk to her maybe she wants to BM. I will lay all my cards on the table and hopefully we can move on and do fun stuff like plan my wedding. Thanks you guys allowing me to vent your the best
yea I'd try and talk to her if I were you, I don't know how close you are but i'd tell her to stepp it upp shes hurting your feelings!
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I feel your pain, trust me if my mom wouldn't freak I wouldv'e never had my sister as my MOH. No matter what I want she disagrees.
I don't know what kind of person she is, because I definitelt couldn't do this with my sister, but I would try to sit her down and explain that this is your big day and as your moh you would really appreciate if she took part in the activities.
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Please don't take offense, but your wedding isn't the only thing people have got going on- especially because it's SO far away. Based solely on your posting from this site (I don't know your life!) I don't think you've been at wedding planning long enough for your sister to 'not step up to the plate'. It's going to be a long, lonely 2 years if you start giving people the boot now. And that's your sister, this isn't a bridge you want to burn.
ETA: Please, read some of the REAL horror stories that people's families, FIL's, and BP put them through. That might put things into perspective.
leeza81
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I would talk to her about whats is bothering you. You have soooooo much time. She will come around.
TheFutureMrs2011
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I would just talk to her about it... ITA you have so much time, you don't want to start wars this early on.. I'm sure she will come around, but you could always rely on the rest of your bridal party in the meantime.... She will most likely come around and if she doesn't well then at least shes your sister and you'll always know why she was in that role.. Right now I feel like I'm totally not into the dress thing and getting together with my BP and they are all asking non-stop what they can do.. I feel like it's still too far away and I'm about a yr out.. So you never know how she'll be in a yr, maybe she just doesn't have time or the mindset for it yet
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My vote is for the 1st answer..... She's family and thank goodness the wedding is in 2012... so you have time to discuss what problems really lie within...
work it out and relax hun! you have plenty of time
